Dear List, A few parenting books that I have read state the controlled crying causes infant depression.The reason the babies sleep is that they are depressed!The only time I would ever leave a bay cry is if I was to the stage of doing harm, and needed time to recoup before attending to the baby's needs.Ann--- Larry & Megan <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Dear list > I remember with my first baby, 31/2 yrs ago, he had > to sleep in his room, > not ours, and having to get up for all his feeds and > staying in there for > all the settling. No doubt this contributed to my > exhaustion, but I > believed that it was what you should do. Next baby, > 18 months later, > bassinette in our room, fed in bed and fall asleep. > Eventually baby was > moved into own room. Now with another baby, only 8 > weeks old, starts off in > his bed in our room, ends up in our bed. Sleep is so > essential for coping > with life. It also helped that the last 2 babies > were born at home, point > being the continuity of care and support. > Unfortunately for a lot of us it takes our own > experiences to grow from and > become more confident parents. This is not helped by > carers, including the > post-natal midwives, giving women such varying > advice and often so archaic. > I also believe our lifestyles contribute, many women > leave full time work > just prior to having their baby and have no idea how > to be at home, least > of all be a parent. They are used to their day > fitting into a schedule, and > we all know babies create their own. I don't even > bother to check how long > it is between feeds now, if Angus cries he gets fed, > I don't have time to > do controlled crying. I spent so much time teaching > my first to sleep, I > wished I'd spent it enjoying him. Being a parent is > one of the hardest > things you can do, yet we are expected to be fully > qualified in 3 days, or > 5 if you've had a cs. > Dare I add that our immunisation schedule could be > contributing to the > amount of very unhappy babies out there. > Sweet Dreams > Megan Resch > Birth Matters SA > >
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