Hi Macha and all -
Macha, your words "now we have her going vaginal" have me concerned -this poor woman is obviously terrified - of any way she is to get this baby out. Please try to remember how vulnerable we all are at this time - especially if we have been victims of scaremongering about birth.
 
Although it is over twenty years ago I remember the fear as I approached my second birth after a yucky first one -as I came to my due date I became very scared - as well as terror, mythoughts were -there is no getting out of this Thankfully,  I was in New Zealand,  where NOBODY was routinely  offered medication let alone a c/section and this baby came VERY easily -during my pregnancy,I was also surrounded by women who felt comfortable with their bodies and it was this confidence and reassurance that permeated my being, and reassurance that second babies "know the way", rather than any pressure not to beg for medication/epidural (as one male GP friend had suggested to me)
 
It really is HER choice - all we can do is gently present information/ reading material and leave others to make their own choices -in a state of fear and feeling pulled/pressured from every direction , labour is likely to be inhibited by the stress hormones -then she will be 'vindicated' if she does have  a caesarean. This is a very special time that shouldnt be a matter of any sort of pressure -even from those of us who have experienced the joy of GIVING birth.
 
rather than scaring her also about the effects of c/section, perhaps expressing some empathy towards her fear might help this woman "open up" and this may have the effect of disipating some of her anxiety,
 
The best start for any mother and baby relationship is to feel safe and nurtured, whatever their choices. If she feels safer seeing her doctor EVERY week, so what, if her anxiety is alleviated by this (anxiety isnt healthy for baby either and it may be an early manifestation of depression so does need to be monitored). Sometimes it is difficult to accept others choices, but we need to offer support, not pressure .it IS after all THEIR choice.
 Pinky

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