i was wondering if someone could point me in the right direction, when/who initiated that it was better for mum to see/hold their stillborns?
Interesting question, and I don't know the answer, but, in the UK, SANDS was very instrumental in changing attitudes and practice in the early 80's.
I don't necessarily think it would be right to say that is always "better" - each parent is an individual, and what is right for one may not be for another. However, all parents should be offered the chance to hold their baby.
On a personal note - my second son died shortly after birth, and it was the first thing I asked. We held him for many hours before leaving the hospital, and revisited him several times after that (both in hospital and in the funeral home). It was a great help - as were the photos and other momentos that we have. The photos of Michael are proudly displayed with those of our other sons around the house.
Jessica - I would be happy to answer any more questions you may have about my personal experience (if you think it may help)?
Regards
Debbie Slater
Perth, WA
