----- Original Message -----
Sent: Thursday, September 19, 2002 11:46
PM
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery]
workshops
Hi Wendy,
Here are some refs that may be
helpful:
A Harvard study suggests the link between stress
disorders and leaving babies to Cry -it is
Powell, Alvin, "researchers Say Children Need
Touch and Attention" in Harvard University Gazette. Cambridge: April
1998
There was an article in a weekend newspaper
mag (Saturday or Sunday Age??) that came out after my Crying Book had gone to
the printers I cant lay my hands on it right now (in a pile somewhere??)
that had more about this early stress research being carried out I think at an
Australian University -I will try to find it but am a bit flat out right at
the moment.
The book Emotional Intelligence by Daniel
Golman(?) (mine never came back when I lent it - the best ones dont) explains
about neuro-physiology re trauma and I expect it is a similar process if
babies are traumatised by the stress of being left to cry it out - I suppose
nobody can really say how long is too long to leave any baby -why would we
leave them to cry anyway ??-I dont know why we need research to tell us what
should be common sense - but we all need "ammo" to defend natural ways whether
it is birthing or breastfeeding or nurturing
Mind you I am amazed every time i talk to parents
-had a real "doozy" of a mother today -"put a snib/lock 'outside' toddlers
bedroom door to stop him coming out while we were watching TV"
"He got sick of crying and went to sleep on the
floor behind the door a few nights and now he doesnt get out of
bed!!"
Poor little thing!! But at least she bought both
of my books so maybe she will gently get the message that her child is a real
person with feelings.
Another pregnant mum was wondering which book to
buy -I asked her how her birth was last time - "Great" she said, I had an
elective caesar -that was what I wanted. Apparently IVF then
elective caesar then did the whole sleep settling technique / controlled
crying thing - now reckons that was a waste of time and awful so is looking at
other ways . This time she conceived
naturally between IVF treatments -I said isnt that wonderful -hormones are
amazing how they can kick in etc etc -maybe you will be able to consider
a natural birthing experience this time too -can only sow the seeds gently but
the spiral of disempowerment/ disconnection is so obvious.
Infant depression / shut down is mentioned at
Sears William . Fussy Baby. www.askdrsears.com
Another nice one about brain development - How
Love Boosts Brainpower - Greenspan, Stanley and lieff Benderly, Beryl, Parents
New York, Feb 1997,
Parent Directed Feeding is linked to Failure to
thrive -
This site leads to many more
interesting articles:
An attachment one that is
interesting:
Pinky
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Thursday, September 19, 2002 2:03
PM
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery]
workshops
Pinky, unfortunately I'm in South Australia and
not able to make it to your talk, however I am intrigued by your comment
that there is emerging evidence that practices such as controlled crying and
parent-directed feeding could be linked to neurophysiological changes that may predispose children to stress disorders
such as panic, anxiety and depression in later life. Would you be able
to post some references so I can read further into the
matter?
Many thanks,
Wendy Hosking
B.Mid. student, Flinders
University
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Thursday, September 12, 2002
9:05 AM
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery]
workshops
Hi Joy
I will be speaking informally to mums with
bubs only at 2.30pm after a babies GymbarOO class on the afternoon of 26
Sept (just in case later nights arent easy and it can be more specifically
to needs of newer mums) This is no charge and wont be promoted openly,
although if you know some mums who would like to attend this will be
fine.
I am giving an evening talk 'Parenting By
Heart' - at 7.30 pm. -Venue :CWA hall, 561 Kiewa St. Albury (next to
council building).
The blurb is :
Pinky McKay, author of the popular Parenting
By Heart and 100 Ways to Calm the Crying - the ONLY Australian book about
infant crying (with a foreword by Sheila Kitzinger) - will be
visiting Albury on 26 Sept.
Pinky offers a gentle perspective on
parenting, without power struggles. She is passionate about how the
prevalence of methods such as controlled crying and behaviour
management can have adverse affects on both the parent/ child
relationship, infant health and well-being, and parental
confidence.
She says, "at any age, parent/child
relationships should be based on mutual respect and trust, rather than
issues of control , yet power struggles are beginning with infants as
young as just a few weeks old over basic needs such as feeding and
sleeping."
Pinky's stance against practices such as
controlled crying and parent directed feeding is based on emerging
evidence that these practices can be associated with:
*Failure to thrive,
*infant depression,
*changes to the physiology of the brain that
may predispose children to stress disorders such as panic, anxiety and
depression in later life.
Pinky will be
speaking to parents at Albury GymbaROO centre 7.30 pm Thursday
26 Sept.Her talk "Parenting By Heart" will encourage parents to take
charge by becoming informed, then listening to their child and trusting
their own instincts, rather than handing over their power to a myriad
of expert advice which may be confusing, or irrelevant to an individual
situation.
Cost $5 - bookings PH> Helen - (02) 6024
4464
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, September 11, 2002
4:29 PM
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery]
workshops
Hi Pinky,
Could I have details of your workshop/talk in Albury
please? Thanks,
Joy
Joy Cocks RN (Div 1) RM CBE IBCLC
BRIGHT Vic 3741
email:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, 11 September
2002 14:32
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery]
workshops
Hi Megan,
So far,
I am heading to talk in Albury on 26
sept.
Am getting quite a few invites and
referring some to my agent as lots of time organising required
-travel is tricky among mothering/
working etc but I will consider if there is a group of
interested mums and expenses covered.
Pinky
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Sunday, September 08,
2002 4:18 PM
Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery]
workshops
Hi Pinky,
do you ever travel with your workshops. I'm in Adelaide and
would love to take part in one.
Megan.
Hi
After all the talk of public
liabilityI now find myself being asked to provide public liability
coverage for workshops !! I need to do this to use the venue - has
brought home how accepted is seems to be for people not to accept
personal responsibility for their choices/ actions.
Will be putting the full outline on
my website in a few days, but am holding a toddler wweekend
workshop and a series of Gentle Beginnings as
follows:
Gentle
Beginnings
Discover gentle parenting
options including how to calm and connect with your baby and
enhance infant development naturally without pressure, as well as
how to nurture yourself and your partner relationship. Gentle
Beginnings, a series of six weekly workshops for parents or
parents-to-be with Pinky McKay , author of �Parenting By Heart�
and �100 Ways to Calm the Crying� commences 10.30am Tuesday 15 October at
Wyreena Community Arts Centre, Croydon. Cost $80 (incl GST). No extra charge for
partners.
