Title: Re: [ozmidwifery] what to say to traumatised woman WAS hurtful birth experiences
For anyone who is interested, there is a great list on Victorious Birth.com of "what to say to someone who has had a traumatic c/sec". The direct link is :
http://www.victoriousbirth.com/whatdoyousay...htm
I wish I'd found it when I most needed it - not 3 years later. It outlines pretty much exactly what I needed to hear. MAybe except for "What would you do differently?", as usually the mother has done everything within her own base of understanding.
And what would I do differently??? Be WAY more educated and Birth with a midwife I knew and trusted for starters.
Melissa
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From: "Judy Chapman" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
To: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
Subject: [ozmidwifery] hurtful birth experiences
Date: Mon, 11 Nov 2002 8:07 PM
Judy
From: "rem & melissa bruijn"
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] hurtful birth experiences
Date: Sun, 10 Nov 2002 21:52:43 +0800
MArgie - just wanted to say THANK YOU for these words. The biggest thing I
am finding for anyone who has been traumatised by their birth experience is
GETTING VALIDATION.
Everytime someone says "It is not ok", as you have, it lets us hear that our
pain is valid. We usually hear "but you're fine and the baby is fine"
whenever we mention our difficulties to others. Hearing "It is not ok" also
gives us permission to grieve, for it admits that there IS another way that
IS ok...and we have missed out on it. It is important to acknowledge this.
And the way you wrote about having had the honour of supporting traumatised
women on their new journey...that just fills me with hope, and gratitude
that there are people like you out there. Thank you,
Melissa
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