Cas, Thank you for sharing your birth story with us all, and I am sorry that the experience caused you so much anguish. Yes, things can be different and it is great to hear of everything you are doing to make it so, this time, in your planning and preparation for your April baby. Birthtalk sounds like an incredibly positive group. I am sorry, too, for your husband's distress and fear. A men's BIrthtalk would be great wouldn't it?
May your own inner strength, determination and careful planning bring you the birth of your dreams. I have supported a number of women having VBACS and it has been a great honour and great learning for me as each woman finds her own way - taking into consideration all the factors of her life. I'll share my friend's story because she was such an inspiration to me - and sharing her story has been an inspiration to others too. My friend had a traumatic (non) emergency caesar first time and severe PND for the year afterwards. When she got pregnant again - unplanned - she decided to see it as an opportunity to somehow make amends to herself and her first son although she was shit scared. She went initially to the same hospital but freaked just going there- but while waiting she 'found' a caesarean support group leaflet and she got in touch. She 'found' an independent midwife - to go to hospital with her. She started thinking homebirth but her husband was dead against it because he was so frightened and traumatised. But he saw her need too and eventually said that he could see it was HER best. She 'found' me as extra support and other backup support if necessary. They hoped he might become less fearful so he could be a strength for her but if not, they decided that he would not be around for the intensity of labour because he was too frightened and she was determined that she not have to face his f! ! ear. He was to look after their child away from the birth setting. As it turned out the labour got underway strongly as soon as the little boy was in bed and asleep. The partner disappeared to his room when he got uncomfortable with the labour progress - going beautifully and strongly. And he came out of the bedroom to welcome his new son as soon as he was born. best wishes, Cas Margie -------------------------------------------------------- Looking for a free email account? Get one now at http://www.freemail.com.au/ --------------------------------------------------------
