Dearest Sue (long but necessary for You)

I just wish I lived closer so I could nick around and give you a big hug
right now.  Those of us who know you for the woman you are, the experience
you have, the love and wisdom you have given to many lucky women over the
years, share the sadness and disillusionment you feel right now.

Many of us who have the privilege of working with women in the community and
the experience of hospital based care know that not much has changed in the
past 30 years.  In fact, I would go as far as to say it is worse in terms of
the high intervention rates, Caesarean Section rates, physical, emotional
and psychological trauma unwittingly inflicted on women who labour and birth
in the system.  There are small pockets of light where midwives have been
and are successful or who are endeavouring to retain or return midwifery
it's rightful place.

65 years ago when my mother-in-law had her two boys at home with the local
midwife and GP (only if needed) had far better (even posterior) birth
experiences than most women are faced with in the hospital system today.
She told us (5ft tall) how she laboured for 3 days (initially on and off)
with her first big boy posterior position, the energy with which she shared
her experience was wonderful each time we heard it.  She was the anchor of
the family, and that flowed on to the grandchildren. She has passed on now,
but her stories remain vivid in our hearts and minds. Then there is my
experience when working with the old GP as a student midwife - he never
phased with the breech presentation (no unnecessary Caesar's then) - taught
me "HANDS OFF THE BREECH" let the baby come down gently and slowly, keep the
little body warm, if you touch you stress the baby, stressed baby means a
stressed mother.  There are many of these stories and of course there are
also the difficult and bad ones too - like the old ether then heroin days.

I am trying to think realistically - that leaves me with the thought that
not much has really changed, just the way it is done, the number of people
involved per birthing woman (some aesthetic environments are still not
changed) and the number of drug companies leeching millions of dollars from
the taxpayers pockets.  Increased fear of litigation, 9 to 5 obstetrics and
the need for the medical profession to 'save the woman' from natural,
nurturing birth experiences by inflicting their own inadequacies of not
coping on the woman. The retrieval effect, the I know what's best for you
syndrome   Fear is our worst enemy, fear driven knowledge passed on through
experience perpetuates depending where your experience is obtained,
practiced and maintained. Since medical men and women have taken over
midwifery the predictions are now looming.  We are seeing (in the main) an
era of unhappy, depressed, traumatised women followed by difficulty with
breastfeeding leading to early weaning, families often unthinkingly
supplementing the multi billion dollar infant formula trade. And we are
developing midwives who only gain experience in a medically controlled model
of care, often yearning for midwifery experience but feel totally inadequate
and overwhelmed by fear of rocking the boat.  Unable to change the conveyor
belt system without a revolt most will continue in their submissive role of
obstetricians assistant.  For these midwives it means the threat of lost
jobs, income, financial stability and promotion. 

When we provide prenatal care, attend each women in labour and birth and
continue with them afterwards in their own surroundings there is a huge
difference not many midwives/women/wise women birth attendants get to
experience.  Emanating is an aura of peace not fear, success not failure,
strength not submission, family/chosen others not strangers, trust not
distrust, empowerment generated by the woman not disempowerment generated by
the fearful ones.

It's a bit like we live what we learn.  That is where I have a strong belief
that the medical profession would do well to accept some time out in the
community with us.  Nothing is ever guaranteed in our lives but there is one
thing I am very certain of - if more women had the opportunity to be with
women like yourself we would have much happier, well adjusted mothers
experiencing birth as it should be, breastfeeding and nurturing without fuss
and in economic terms the country would be billions of dollars in the black
and the formula companies would be like the cigarette companies struggling
in the presence of a health conscious nation.

Take some time out, recharge your inner strength, rewind your wisdom - it's
not really time for you to depart yet Sue.  When you are rested and had time
to reflect you will know where you are going to be.

Loving warmth and strength to you and love to your husband and family

Robyn     

Robyn Thompson

Melbourne Midwifery
Specialist Services  Pty Ltd  (abn 34 007 423 994)
Independent Midwifery Practice

Midwife Practitioner
*       Homebirth  
*       Lactation
*       Maternal & Child Health

www.melbmidwifery.com.au
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