Pete, that must have felt so awful for you as a new father - it must have really hurt to feel so powerless and not be able to be the "protector" -I do think mothers go into a protective/ passive state in the early days -the total focus is on the baby and any energy dealing with conflict feels contrary to mothering. That good ol' prolactin seems to take away any aggressive/ angry feelings maybe it is natures way of helping us nurture/ protect the baby.And usually there simply isnt any energy left over to do anything beyond caring for ourselves and our infant.
And yes we do tend to "leave the birth behind" in an effort to forget trauma -I have a dear friend who was robbed and bashed last week -CIB were coming yesterday to do an identikit and she was terrified saying "I just want to forget -I dont want to go back over it and see her face. I have been trying to block it out because every time I shut my eyes I see her" (yes it was a young woman who violated her) However, some of us have recurring nightmares/ dreams too -I did -of going back over and "having my baby properly". Pinky ----- Original Message ----- From: "Malavisi, Pete" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Friday, January 24, 2003 8:46 PM Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery] Response to criticisms re-use of water during labour/birth at RPA > > > I would just like to pick up on a point that Hannah has made that the > individual concerned directly must make the complaint, I do support this but > there are occasions when individual are affected by events but for whatever > reason fail to recognise the seriousness or potential seriousness of the > situation. I had the very unfortunate experience of having to hold my > partner down on the operating table because the epidural wasn't working and > she felt all the pain from the caesar, for whatever reason (I believe > personal protection) she failed to remember how bad it was, I was put in a > very frustrating position of not wanting to see this to happen to anyone > else so tried to pursue it but in effect nothing could be done unless my > partner would lodge the complaint and basically she just wanted to put it > all behind her. I shudder to think that the same could happen to another > woman. We as midwives and support people act as advocates for many women we > care for but at the end of the day we seem powerless to change the system or > what is happening and I regret will continue to happen to far to many women. > > yours in midwifery pete malavisi > -- > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. > -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe.
