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Well, with my first it took me 14months - I went to the dr and he
said to me that I shouldn't worry as "bringing a baby into the world while
the economy is like it is - is probably not such a good idea anyway.
So wat's a year or so going to matter anyway, you only get one chance a
month so that is only 12 times a year so it may take a while." hmm
that was lots of help! NOT!!
I started to look after a baby - I guess caring for a baby seems to
bring on the hormones - i have heard of women adopting and then falling
pregnant etc as i think that it does seem to have something to
do with it. So looking after a 6 month old baby - about 4
months of doing this three days a week and I fell pregnant. To my
delight.
My second child took 3 yrs to concieve and the only thing that seemed
to do it was getting really really really busy - I had to almost single
handedly organise about 16 people to work at Sexpo doing liquid latex and
body piercing - one came from germany! And then after
working at sexpo for 4 days painting and then ripping liquid Latex
off a male porn star from europe,(who gave me the nicest kiss to say
thank you! *grin*), hardly eating anything for the 4 days we were so
busy,then I got my navel pierced on stage in front of
5000 people and latter that night got horridly drunk on 3
glasses of vodka (probably because of the 4 days of starvation and
dehydration!)and YES!!! I fell pregnant that night. Take your
pick as to what did it! No not the porn start - definitely my
hubby!! LOL
I opt for the really busy and getting drunk and maybe even the
adrenalin rush from getting the piercing.
See I figured I was "trying too hard" and so for three years I
worried I would get pre eclampsia again, I worried the previous C/S had
damaged me and that i would have another prem baby if I did fall pregnant
and so I worried a lot and it didn't work. Once i had no time to
think and had not even the time to contemplate it - then i got pregnant -
something people also tell me happens. So the mind must play a large
roll in it.
I also stopped drinking milk for a few months around this time as
milk seems to produce thicker mucus to stop the sperm from getting
through. If that makes sence. Apparently, there is some
evidence to support that too.
I do know how desperate it can be and how each month just getting a
period can feel as devastating as having a miscarriage - the loss of what
might have been etc. So I do know how hard it is to not worry.
I had a book of inspirational words and each time i would worry about
faling pregnant with my second child I almost always got the same message
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"To be upset over what you don't have.....is to waste what you do
have." Ken Keyes,Jr Handbook to Higher Consciousness
I guess that meant a lot to me and seemed to give me some
comfort. As I had let the worry of getting pregnant get in the way
of my husband and my relationship and the relationship with my
daughter. Once that was back on track and I started to look at what
I did have in my life - and got busy too..Then I fell pregnant.
Perhaps it can help here too. Maybe she needs to be happy with
her life first to make room in it for the baby. To be so intent on
wanting a baby seems to cloud everything else and once you get to a point
where you can say OK - I'll just get on with my life and enjoy things as
they are - then it happens. Took me 3yrs to work that out so
maybe we can speed things up for her. Even though it is so hard to
do!
Good Luck
Rhonda
-------Original Message-------
Date: Sunday, February
23, 2003 23:55:07
Subject: [ozmidwifery]
baby wanted
Hi all,
I need some wisdom for a young women
who was tears telling me how desperately she wants to get pregnant, she
has been trying for about 5 months.
She is 21, had an abortion at 16 and three
recent miscarriages. She also has huge guilt that her past may have
permanently damaged her body.
Her doctor told her that
she is "low in estrogen" and that is why he put her on a
contraceptive pill that had a high estrogen level in the
past?
He also said that she has to have several
more miscarriages before they will do any tests (cruel unthinking
bastard!)
She is very slight in stature (maybe
wears size 6 jeans) but otherwise healthy and has a good diet.
If you clever people can help with some
advise so she can do something proactive I think it will be a great
comfort to her.
All tips, tricks and recommendations
welcome:)
Thankyou, Julie'',
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