Hugs to you too Lynne, you ladies are real angels, Pinky ----- Original Message ----- From: "Lynne Staff" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Thursday, March 20, 2003 7:59 PM Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] When birth and death come together
> Dear Lieve > I was only this morning at a beautiful birth of a stillborn baby girl - > perfect in every way, looking so much like her mother! How things happen at > this time are crucial for the parents - they have SO MUCH to do - in their > hearts, their souls, their lives, their families..... a word, an action can > have such an influence on this for them. I am a midwife and this is part of > life - and death - I am close to you at this time, as are the parents I was > with this morning. I do not have the words at this time, but I feel so much > for this family - so far away in distance, but so close in thought and heart > and life! > Love to you and them - Lynne > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "Lieve Huybrechts" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > Sent: Thursday, March 20, 2003 8:48 AM > Subject: [ozmidwifery] When birth and death come together > > > > Dear friends, > > > > Thank you all for the nice replys and warmfull thoughts for me and the > > family. > > I will tell you now what followed. > > > > Monday morning Lars was still very alive and alert. He drank several times > > during the night, pied, made stools, had the hickup, was sneezing, in one > > word, he did all a healthy child does. > > The mother hardly dared to close her eyes to sleep, afraid of missing some > > moments. The baby never left the arms of his parents. > > So in the morning we had a talk. We all had questions about how it will > > continue, how much time do we have, how will he die... > > So the parents decided to go to the university hospital to have an > > ultrasound of the heart. They made clear to the docter that they just > wanted > > an ultrasound and then return home to decide what options were for them. > > The ultrasound confirmed the previous diagnosis: no left part of the > heart, > > severe of the aorta and when the ductus of Botalli closes, the baby will > go > > in acidosis, coma and die. They predicted 24 to 48 hours to live. > > The familie came home again. They made pictures and video of the baby. > Lars > > never left their arms. They called some friends and told them about the > > birth and had visitors. But also we did a lot of talking, laughing and > > crying. > > 24 hours passed, 48 hours passed. Lars is now more then 72 hours and still > a > > perfect child. He had his first bath today together with his mother and > > enjoyed it a lot. He is feeding well, has already breastfeeding stools and > > is very alert. > > He beated all the prognoses about lifetime. So we don't know anything > about > > how long. > > > > Emotions are strange, we know there is no hope for long time, but we don't > > know how long. The parents enjoy the baby, but also fear the moment they > > have to let him go. > > We are prepared, but it's so absurd when you see Lars, he is so alive. > > The parents hoped that he would live long enough to see his eyes open, the > > mother hoped for some moments on the breast. Now they got already so much. > > They feel privileged and very happy, but grieve is so close. Laughter and > > tears go hand in hand. > > What will the futur bring??? > > > > Warm greetings > > Lieve > > > > -- > > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. > > -- > This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. > Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe.
