[ozmidwifery] In control Crying

[Pinky McKay]

I was sent this for comment by a webhost - an expert on her panel answered the following question thus: - I am amazed at the description - "in control" crying. Is this getting to be a common way to persuade mothers to control cry?  -it is certainly the only option offered here. Pinky     My son is 6 months old and has always had a dummy.  He is now waking up in the night-time to find that his dummy has fallen out, so he cries out for me to go and put the dummy back in.  As soon as I do this, he falls back to sleep.  The problem is that sometimes I have to do this every hour during the night, which can sometimes be up to 8 times a night.  I can't really control cry him because the problem is solved as soon as I put the dummy back in.  And I don't want to stop using the dummy just yet.  Do you have any suggestions on how I can encourage him to go back to sleep on his own? Dear  Dummies or comforters . Had you considered, that by getting up to put the dummy back in his mouth ,that you are thanking him for waking up. When your child stops being rewarded he will have the opportunity to self settle.  I suggest you contact  a Sleep Centre, they have overnight stays to support you  making a change. Speak with your Maternal and Child Health Nurse.  You say you are not ready to control cry , think about " In control crying. " The dummy is a pet topic of mine.  They are of value with some small babies.  It is my observation that often they make children cry more,  Good luck