Re: [ozmidwifery] pregnant soon after birth!

[Pinky McKay]

Hi Jo, Do you think perhaps the fact that she is pregnant again means her baby has been a bit hungry (breastmilk changes/ lower supply due to pregnancy)? Or is picking up on her tiredness/ perhaps reduced responsiveness due to this exhaustion. And what does she mean by "terrible sleeper" ? So many people now expect bubs to sleep for at least 10 hours by six months - and even sooner. I have an article on baby sleep in the latest Family Circle -they have highlighted the piece "mothers and babies who sleep together tend to get into the same sleep cycles". I feel as though some of our natural ideas are being seen as a bit of a novelty -am being interviewed by A Current Affair next week re co-sleeping. I have no idea who "the other side" will be. So far they have banged on about my ideas on "safety/ rolling on babies" I keep saying when was the last time you fell out of bed?   If you like I can send you my email newsletter which focusses on controlled crying and has links to Ask Dr Sears, Kangaroo care, Continuum concept and James McKennas sites - probably not exactly helpful to a very tired mum trying to make pregnancy decisions though.   I think the idea of support is spot on - have just discovered there is a voluntary group that trains helpers - its called Good Beginnings, or a doula? Your own story was probably good for her to hear too and may slowly help her consider that babies do change and grow -and even in several months her baby will be different and possibly sleeping a bit more, and of course she will have more energy once she gets through these first few months, but I guess shes so overwhelmed right now and not having any other kids there is nt that experience to guide her choices.    Thanks for recommending my Crying book -I hope it helps. pinky ----- Original Message ----- From: jo hunter To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Thursday, July 17, 2003 5:56 PM Subject: [ozmidwifery] pregnant soon after birth! Hi all, I had a phone call from a woman today who is seeking information and or stories from other women who have had 2 babies close together. She has a 6 month old and has found out she is pregnant again. She is not sure whether or not she will go ahead with the pregnancy as she feels she will be unable to cope with 2 children so close. I was able to share my own story with her (pregnant with 3rd when 2nd was 4 months old). I feel she's quite unsupported as a mother but tells me her pregnancy, birth and parenting so far have been positive and she is quite obviously in love with her bub, she has been control crying her baby 'who is a terrible sleeper' and says she feels exhausted much of the time (I referred her to your book Pinky). Does anyone have any ideas of websites, books etc to help her. A bit lost! Thanks Jo Hunter Homebirth mum to 4 HAS Coordinator Innate Birth CBEducator and Doula