I think it is a new word for controlled crying which changed to controlled
comforting to parent directed something as though it is any different. I am
quite concerned by the amount of women buying into this parent directed
feeding sleeping crap, as though it works- although we all know about
Pavlov. I have seen women as an L.C. who have had homebirth and yet have
huge expectations that they can do this parent directed feeding even when
they are experiencing low supply etc. the idea that a six week old baby
should sleep through the night or at least not be fed is unbelievable to me
personally and really scary professionally as women increasingly need to use
formula to enable this. It also teaches women to distrust themselves as
mothers capable of 'mothering' their baby the way they instinctively want
to. It seems to becoming quite an acceptable form of parenting here in SA
and there is a GP here who actively promotes ( and unfortunately gets lots
of media exposure/support - you know the reporter who had sleep deprivation
and turned to him for advice  formula fed then got her life back or the one
who couldn't breatsfeed and her baby starved and cried all the time until he
'saved' her etc etc etc) women's need to sleep for the sake of the family
dynamic (husband) and herself as more important than feeding at the breast
therefore artificially feeding at night is the best option. he doesn't
acknowledge or discuss issues such as the importance of breasftfeeding,
support, mothering as instinctual or essential to a woman and her baby.
Anyway I could go on and on it is an extreme source of frustration and anger
to me, in the end it only deprives women of a good sense of self  esteem,
parenting style, acceptance of difference in babies as though there really
is a way to produce a 'good' baby etc. I must stop!
Belinda

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