I have supported a few women with enthusiastic
partners and there is usually a time when the woman ‘tells off’ the
guy…rubbing too hard, talking too much, saying dumb things etc :o)
We talk about this before the labour and
we discuss that for a labouring woman they have little opportunity to be polite
as they need their needs met straight away…stop rubbing, start rubbing
etc. I also tell the couple that I believe
that the time in which baby comes in to the world is a time that should be as
sacred, special and intimate as the time they were conceived. I tell them that I as a doula will step
outside their circle and let them be in a space where it is them and their
child. The midwife is an essential
element at this time too, but as a doula it is not my position to be in that
sacred circle.
I love seeing dads involved but there are
some definite times and cases where birth is woman’s business.
Better go, the kids are raiding the pantry.!!!!! I
love ‘em don’t I????
Cheers
Jo
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wonderfully successful vbac birth this morning
How beautiful!! When I first read the message, I
thought it meant the dad got in trouble from the midwife! But it all makes
sense now!!!!
Keep the stories coming... I love them
Katrina :-)
On 31/03/2005, at 8:23 AM, Julie Clarke wrote:
Hi
Katrina
Having
just read your question this morning I have had a little chuckle as I remember
the couple of moments, firstly when he was rubbing her back too
enthusiastically during a contraction – she had actually asked for a back
rub and he was doing a great job just didn’t think to stop when the next
contraction came – he wasn’t watching her face so he didn’t
realize – she let out a little growl and he was shocked
Then
the next time was with the face washer – her face and cheeks were very
hot so we had a lovely wet cool washer but I think he squashed her nose or
blocked it with the washer and that caused a reaction too.
It was
very heartwarming though when I saw the look on his face as the lovely midwife
helped him to catch his new little baby girl I had the camera and gave a couple
of quick clicks so I hope I got that shot for him.
He was
exceptional afterwards as he supported mum and bub throughout the first
breastfeed. He is a totally involved dad.
Warm
hug
Julie
Julie Clarke CBE
Independent
Childbirth and Parenting Educator
HypnoBirthing
(R) Practitioner
ACE
Grad Dip Supervisor
NACE
Advanced Educator and Trainer
NACE
National Journal Editor
Transition into Parenthood Sessions
9
Withybrook Place
Sylvania
NSW 2224
Telephone
9544 6441
Mobile:
0401 2655 30
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From:
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Sent:
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Subject:
Re: [ozmidwifery] A wonderfully successful vbac birth this morning
hi
just
a question..
Why did the dad get into
trouble???
just curious thats all
katrina :-)
On 30/03/2005, at 6:21
AM, Julie Clarke wrote:
Hi
I have just come in the
door from supporting at another wonderful birth, which was a successful vbac.
The woman had made a
well informed choice to aim for a vbac and not a repeat cesar, however she
experienced the usual normal anxiety of anyone having a vaginal birth
compounded with lack of confidence because she didn’t get there last time.
Well we worked through
those issues slowly and gently, over an hour and a half she pushed her baby
into the world – a gorgeous baby girl with a lovely head of dark curly
hair.
The midwife was lovely,
gentle, positive, calm, quiet and unobtrusive.
The dad was great and
got into trouble a couple of times – I felt sorry for him – he was
crestfallen because he was trying to do his best.
The woman was so pleased
with herself at having achieved what she wanted to achieve a natural active
birth with no drugs, no intervention and a fine healthy baby.
She didn’t have
any colostrum after the cesar and was worried – but after this normal
birth we got the baby on and the baby looked very contented and relaxed as I
left.
And I have come home
with another big smile on my face satisfied in the knowledge that when a woman
puts her mind to it and no one stands in her way she can do anything
can’t she?
A great experience to
start the day.
Warm hug to all
Julie
Julie Clarke CBE
Independent Childbirth
and Parenting Educator
HypnoBirthing (R)
Practitioner
ACE Grad Dip Supervisor
NACE Advanced Educator
and Trainer
NACE National Journal
Editor
Transition into Parenthood Sessions
9 Withybrook Place
Sylvania NSW 2224
Telephone 9544 6441
Mobile: 0401 2655 30
email:[EMAIL PROTECTED]
visit
Julie's website: www.transitionintoparenthood.com.au
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