Re: [ozmidwifery] Absolutely horrified!

Mon, 21 Nov 2005 07:33:23 -0800

Interesting thought - I was recently talking with an aquaintance who is seeing a private ob. She is already being 'primed' for C/S (at 30 wks, primip) due to gestational diabetes. I discussed some of the actual evidence with her and she said that she had learned more in 10 minutes on the phone than in all her A/N visits to date. Went on to say that the A/N visits made her feel patronised, bullied, and upset. I asked her if she would pay any other service-provider $100 a time to be made to feel so unsatisfied and suggested that she 'vote with her feet' and find another place to have her baby. She was surprised to think that it could be an option to change at this stage, and this is a well-educated and professional woman who is actually providing me with a service, so I said that if she made me feel as bad about accessing her service as her ob was making her feel, I would certainly be looking elsewhere! 

Sue
"The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing" 
Edmund Burke
----- Original Message ----- From: "Janet Fraser" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> 
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Monday, November 21, 2005 9:28 AM
Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] Absolutely horrified!



Kelly if you're around enough hospy birthing mamas you hear all this and
more regularly. I'm always puzzled by what crap service women are prepared
to submit to without protesting or looking for a better way. Maybe when
we're actually liberated from our Nice Girl Shackles and have some rights as 
citizens things will be different. I often ask women whether or not they
liked their Ob and mostly they don't, and mostly they're hurt or distressed 
by actions or words from that Ob but they're going back next time. Um
yeah... Stockholm Syndrome?
J
----- Original Message ----- From: "Kelly @ BellyBelly" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> 
To: <[email protected]>
Sent: Monday, November 21, 2005 12:24 PM
Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery] Absolutely horrified!



Thanks everyone for your thoughts and replies, it was a huge shock to me

but

I guess, sadly, that many of you are well used to this. I haven't heard

from

the woman since Saturday so chances are she's gone into labour. I pray it
all went as well as she hoped.

Best Regards,

Kelly Zantey
Director, www.bellybelly.com.au & www.toys4tikes.com.au
Gentle Solutions For Conception, Pregnancy, Birth & Baby
Australian Little Tikes Specialists

-----Original Message-----
From: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
[mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of Cheryl LHK
Sent: Monday, 21 November 2005 1:25 AM
To: [email protected]
Subject: RE: [ozmidwifery] Absolutely horrified!

Yes, she can turn up to any public hospital with midwifery services and

not

be turned away.  Tell her to have a copy of antenatal paperwork she has

(if

she has it!!) and the midwives at the hospital can ring her orginal

booking

hospital and get any records/pathology faxed over - or at least that has
happened to us in the past.

This is the sort of obs who needs a complaint written about him!!  But it
will turn into a "he said, she said" situation.  If she goes back to him,
take another person with her!!

Cheryl


>From: "Kelly @ BellyBelly" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]>
>Reply-To: [email protected]
>To: <[email protected]>
>Subject: [ozmidwifery] Absolutely horrified!
>Date: Sun, 20 Nov 2005 15:44:48 +1100
>
>One of the girls in my forums here in Melbourne just posted this - no
>wonder
>she seemed upset when I saw her yesterday - I had no idea at the time:
>
>
>
>"I have just had the worst night of my life, and its taken me 3 hours to
>stop crying uncontrollably.
>
>My Dr, who I've been seeing throughout my pg is on leave (bereavement),

and

>since I'm at 41 weeks, the midwives I'm seeing sent me to see the OB

who's

>filling in for him.
>
>So I go for my appt.
>
>First, he does a stretch & sweep without asking me or any prior warning.
>
>Then he says he's booking me in to be induced tomorrow, which when I
>questioned it he tells me I'm going to kill my baby cos I'm past 41

weeks.

>
>The he goes on to say 'I'm not into any of that airy fairy [EMAIL PROTECTED]

You'll

>deliver on the bed, on your back. I'm not a vet.'
>
>So I said I was planning an active birth, (which is what my Dr prefers)
>and he says I'll have to see someone else and good luck getting in to >see 
>anyone else at this stage of the game.
>
>So now I have no obstetrician, no doctor and I don't know what I'm going

to

>do. I'm seriously thinkg about fronting up tomorrow at the Royal Womens

to

>see if I can have my baby there instead of the hospital I'm booked in

at -

>can they turn you away if its a public hospital?"
>
>
>
>This is appalling - beyond belief. my blood is boiling it really is..
>
>
>
>Best Regards,
>
>Kelly Zantey
>Director,  <http://www.bellybelly.com.au/> www.bellybelly.com.au &
><http://www.toys4tikes.com.au/> www.toys4tikes.com.au
>Gentle Solutions For Conception, Pregnancy, Birth & Baby
>Australian Little Tikes Specialists
>
>
>


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