Hugs to you Belinda, call me anytime, you know where I am :) and I make a mean coffee...
Tania x -----Original Message----- From: [EMAIL PROTECTED] [mailto:[EMAIL PROTECTED] On Behalf Of [EMAIL PROTECTED] Sent: Monday, 16 October 2006 9:29 AM To: [email protected] Subject: Re: [ozmidwifery] re: goodbyes well said Tania, I have been trying to think about all of this and what to say but am a bit fragile due to a difficult birth this week...talk about the politics and consequences of blood gases int hospital system for a baby transferred in!!!!! I would have Lisa's straight talking and advocacy in my corner any time...I do think it is a skill that we have to acknowledge some people are better at than others...I am not great on the in your face stuff, I wish I was, I am not good at confrontation and I really wish i was... I do what I believe I need to do and refuse to do what I don't think is needed but i take the stress with me and I find the fights eat up my energy which is definitely flagging Lisa reminds me that we need to support and embrace and argue and challenge - not to be afraid of our individuality or difference, I wish I had her energy and ability to speak out regardless of how we would see things I am a glass half full kinda person, I try to be anyway, if unsure assume the positive aspect rather than negative so that what is a debate does not get seen as personal, I often see people getting upset and am surprised because I didn't read it that way maybe we are so used to being out on a limb alone and always defending ourselves we struggle to see that difference in debate or practice or context is not a personal attack? Belinda Tania Smallwood wrote: > > I’d like to add to the current conversation about cord blood gases… > > > > I’ve been lurking just lately, as many of you know, I’ve had to make a > difficult decision to stop practicing independently due to family > commitments…and so, when the bloke I’m married to is actually here, I > don’t spend as much time as I used to reading and contributing to > Ozmid. Just yesterday I had a few moments to catch up, and when I > read the thread on blood gases, I was sure that I’d missed some mails > (perhaps I have, there seems to be a few problems with mails doubling > up, or getting temporarily lost in cyberspace!). Halfway through the > mails, it seemed to go from a lively and informative debate, > (something that’s been missing from this list for a while IMHO) to a > slinging match, with people getting upset that others are honest and > up front about their views. > > > > Can I just say that I know Lisa B, and if there is a midwife who has > walked in the shoes of every midwife torn between hospital policy, > threat of losing her job, and what’s best for the women, it’s Lisa. > She’s worked in a position of authority for over 2 years at one of > Adelaide’s esteemed private hospitals, and I’m sure the conversations > we’ve had about what she had to fight for there are only a small > portion of what actually goes on. She’s well aware as we all are, of > what a battle it can be in the system, and along with me, and all the > IPM’s I know, has utter respect and admiration for those attempting to > change things one birth at a time. I also see Lisa as a straight > talker, and sometimes even I find it confronting to hear what she has > to say, and I know her better than most on this list! But that > doesn’t mean that I pack my bags and go away, I may not agree, or I > might think hey, that’s a bit blunt, but I also think that she’s made > me think about things that I’d otherwise just go along merrily with, > and not look at in a truly critical light. I actually think that > along with */everyone/* on this list, she has oodles of knowledge and > skill, and heaps to contribute. > > > > I know I will never be a strong enough midwife to do what most of you > do, go in every day and beat my head against that wall and hope to > Goddess that a woman gets away with a good birth. But please, don’t > stop contributing because it’s hard. Being a midwife is a hard road, > no matter where you decide to direct your skill and passion. We’re a > downtrodden minority group, with ideals about women that are not > shared by most of the people in power. Refusing to keep the dialogue > going is never going to be productive, all it will do is stagnate us > where we are, and I think we all want midwifery and provision of > evidence based maternity services to improve and become stronger in > this country. > > > > That’s all from me for now, > > > > Tania > > x > > > -- > No virus found in this outgoing message. > Checked by AVG Free Edition. > Version: 7.1.408 / Virus Database: 268.13.4/476 - Release Date: 14/10/2006 > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > > No virus found in this incoming message. > Checked by AVG Free Edition. > Version: 7.1.408 / Virus Database: 268.13.4/476 - Release Date: 14/10/2006 > -- This mailing list is sponsored by ACE Graphics. Visit <http://www.acegraphics.com.au> to subscribe or unsubscribe. -- No virus found in this incoming message. 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