Pak Eka dan Ambon yang cool, AFAIK, penilaian 'SARA' atau tidaknya suatu tulisan pada akhirnya memang sangat dipengaruhi oleh nilai" yang melekat maupun hinggap pada siapa yang sedang 'menilai'.
Saya lebih setuju kalau artikel di bawah dilihat sebagai pengalaman pribadi biasa saja dan tidak ada yang aneh.. Bagi yang terbiasa berpikir liberal (dan sekuler) tentunya akan merasa 'tersiksa' apabila dihadapkan pada suatu aturan yang dianggap membatasi kebebasannya selama ini.. IMHO apa yang membuat perlu merasa tersinggung.. kalau baru segini saja sudah tersinggung, apalagi baca milis yang lebih 'brutal'.. :-p Mirip yang terbiasa di darat, tiba" berada di dunia air.. Boro" bisa jadi 'Deni si Manusia Ikan'.. Atau mirip dengan ikan di laut, meski terkena air laut tidak ikut asin (baca: larut). Senada dengan tulisan Bos APA tempo hari, kalau tidak mau ada ujian, gimana bisa naik kelas.. Buat yang fwd tulisan di bawah, ditunggu fwd-an yang lebih mengasah daya fikir, ya.. Thanx.. Wallahu a'lam.. CMIIW.. Wassalam, Irwan.K --- In [email protected], eka zulkarnain <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > Saya seorang Muslim. Menurut saya tulisan tersebut > tidak SARA, tapi 'mungkin' berisi pengalaman pribadi > si penulis dan menurut saya hal ini sah-sah saja. > Tulisan ini menurut saya bagus agar kita sebagai > pemeluk agama Islam bisa berkaca apakah kita seperti > itu? Meskipun menurut kita Islam tidak seperti itu, > maka mari kita bersama-sama membangun wajah Islam yang > tak seperti itu. > > Eka Zulkarnain > > --- pegasus inta <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > Dengan membaca postingan ini cukup sudah saya rasa > > untuk gabung di Milis ini ... SARA sekali dan terus > > terang menyinggung perasaan saya. > > > > --- kim3hook <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > > Islam Was My Nightmare > -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- > > > > > > By Jutta > > > > > > 2005/04/26 > > > > > > I was born to a very pious Catholic family in > > > Berlin . Nothing presaged > > > that I would become a Muslim one day. On the > > > contrary, everyone expected me > > > to be a faithful Catholic throughout my life and > > > pass down my faith to my > > > children. > > > > > > However, I had a very rebellious character and, > > like > > > many adolescents, > > > abominated everything my parents liked. I set a > > goal > > > for myself to find a > > > liberating religion different from that of my > > > parents. I was convinced that > > > nothing could be worse than Christianity with its > > > oppressive teachings on > > > women. > > > > > > The religious atmosphere in my family was getting > > on > > > my nerves. I was having > > > heated arguments with my parents all the time > > > because of my disagreement > > > with some Christian teachings. They pressed me to > > be > > > a better Christian; I > > > rebelled and did the opposite. > > > > > > Soon after my graduation from university, I met a > > > young Muslim man of > > > Turkish origin. We fell in love and soon got > > > married. He was not a religious > > > fanatic - he was absolutely secular, although he > > did > > > observe some Islamic > > > obligations (he fasted and prayed). He didn't ask > > me > > > to convert to his > > > religion but he made it clear that he would like > > his > > > children to be Muslims. > > > I myself took great interest in his religion and > > > customs. I expressed > > > willingness to learn more about Islam. > > > > > > He brought me some deceptive (as I know > > understand) > > > books about the glory of > > > Islam and benefits of being a Muslim woman. I read > > > the books and grasped the > > > "beauty" of this religion. > > > > > > I was taught by my Christian parents that a woman > > > had to submit to her > > > husband and thus find God. My Muslim husband > > seemed > > > to be so close to God > > > without any help from priests and I was told that > > I > > > didn't have to get > > > married and submit to my husband to find peace of > > > mind and faith in God. I > > > looked at my husband and blindly believed all > > those > > > lies because he was such > > > a nice man who was the living example of a decent > > > Muslim man. When I prayed > > > behind him, I felt I was getting closer to God and > > > Heaven. > > > > > > Looking back on those days, I see that I was just > > a > > > stupid kid who drummed > > > into herself that Islam was an ideal religion for > > > all humankind. Perhaps I > > > simply wanted to vex my pious parents whom I > > > considered to be repressive > > > monsters. > > > > > > After I had converted, I was given some other > > books > > > that were not as > > > wonderful as previous ones. I learnt that I could > > be > > > beaten by my husband, > > > if he wasn't satisfied with me. But in my addled > > > mind I tried to find > > > justifications for that commandment. Moreover, I > > was > > > sure that my husband > > > was incapable of hitting a woman. > > > > > > I gave birth to our children who were sent to a > > kind > > > of a kindergarten for > > > Muslim children. I kept on working and didn't want > > > to give up my job. My > > > husband supported me and told me that Islam > > actually > > > encouraged women to > > > work and have their own lives. I can't understand > > > how I could believe such > > > downright lies. > > > > > > A few years later he decided to perform Hajj. I > > was > > > very excited and proud > > > of him because, in fact, I was much more religious > > > than my secular husband. > > > > > > When he came back, I couldn't recognize him. His > > > behaviour changed > > > dramatically and he was not longer secular. I > > didn't > > > like wearing a veil and > > > usually put it on only when I went to mosque. Now > > my > > > husband told me that I > > > had to wear a veil outside all the time. When I > > > opened my mouth to object to > > > such horrible behaviour of his, he hit me on the > > > face and told me to shut > > > up. I was forced to quit my job and become a > > > housewife. > > > > > > He brought some books from Saudi Arabia which > > > "reformed" him and saved him > > > from "perishing in Hell". I read those books on > > > Islam, real Islam that my > > > husband started to practice. Suddenly the scales > > > fell from my eyes and I > > > realized that I had never been a Muslim. But it > > was > > > too late, as we were > > > moving to Turkey . He feared that Germany would > > have > > > an adverse effect on > > > our children's upbringing. > > > > > > My life in rural Turkey , with his parents, was a > > > nightmare. I was no longer > > > a liberated Muslimah, a wife of a liberal Muslim; > > I > > > was a real Muslimah, > > > just a commodity of my husband. > > > > > > I used to enjoy praying but now I started to > > detest > > > prayers led by my > > > husband. I no longer felt close to God. When I > > > finished reading a real, not > > > spurious, biography of the prophet, I felt sick. I > > > had been lied to all the > > > time. How could I believe that Muhammad was the > > > prophet of God? > > > > > > I wondered what had happened to my husband. He > > told > > > he had had conversations > > > with fellow Muslims from "moral" countries like > > > Saudi Arabia and they had > > > opened his eyes. I put the blame for my husband's > > > change of behaviour on > > > them but then it occurred to me that he had always > > > been a Muslim, although a > > > secular one. What could I possibly expect from > > him? > > > I had read dozens > > > articles about women married to Muslims and their > > > hardship. I had been > > > warned by my best friends that I was playing with > > > fire. But my unreasonable > > > hatred for Christianity, love for husband and > > > blatant lies deceived me and > > > made me immune to reason and logic. > > > > > > After such a rude awakening to the horrors of Islam > > > === message truncated === > > Eka Zulkarnain ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> In low income neighborhoods, 84% do not own computers. At Network for Good, help bridge the Digital Divide! http://us.click.yahoo.com/HO7EnA/3MnJAA/E2hLAA/BRUplB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> *************************************************************************** Berdikusi dg Santun & Elegan, dg Semangat Persahabatan. 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