Question:
Is it permissible for a very close friend of mine to remove pubic hair
for me? I am very afraid and I am having problems because of this hair.
If my friend removes it for me there will be a pact between us that she
will never speak of anything that she sees, and I need to remove it,
but I feel too shy to ask my mother to remove it for me?.
Answer:
Praise be to Allaah.
Shaving the pubic hair is one of the sunnahs of the fitrah, and Islam
has stipulated that it should not be left without shaving for more than
forty days. The basic principle is that every accountable person should
shave his pubic hair himself, unless he is unable to do that because he
is too old or is sick.
What the sister who is asking this question wants to do is a haraam
action, and is an evil deed that it is not permissible for any Muslim
woman to do except in cases of necessity. The fact that she is afraid
to remove the hair is no excuse. This is not something that requires
bravery and courage. There are many ways of removing it, some of which
are easy.
It does not make it permissible if her friend swears an oath not to
tell anyone of what she sees. If it is permissible to do this because
of necessity, her mother is a better person to shave her pubic hairs.
The saheeh texts state that it is haraam for a man to look at the
‘awrah of another man, or for a woman to look at the ‘awrah
of another woman, and the scholars are unanimously agreed on this
prohibition.
It was narrated that Abu Sa’eed al-Khudri said: The Messenger of
Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No man
should look at the ‘awrah of another man, and no woman should
look at the ‘awrah of another woman.”
Narrated by Muslim (338).
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: As for a man with
another man, each of them may look at that of his companion which is
not ‘awrah. And the ruling on a woman with a woman is the same as
the ruling on a man with a man.
Al-Mughni (7/80).
Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
This is covering of women before men, and covering of men before men
and women before women with regard to the ‘awrah, as the Prophet
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “No man should
look at the ‘awrah of another man, and no woman should look at
the ‘awrah of another woman, and he said: “Guard your
‘awrah from everyone but your wife and that which your right hand
possesses (i.e., slave woman).” I said: What if the people are
living with one another? He said: “If you can prevent anyone
seeing it, then do not let him see it.” I said: What if I am
alone? He said: “Allaah is more deserving that you should feel
shy before Him.” And he forbade a man to lie with a man under one
cover, or a woman to lie with a woman under one cover. And he said
concerning children: “Teach them to pray when they are seven and
smack them if they do not pray when they are ten, and separate them in
their beds.” He forbade looking at or touching the ‘awrah
of a person of the same gender, because that is abhorrent and immoral.
As for men with women, this is because of the issue of sexual desire.
Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (22/113).
Ibn Hajar (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
… This is something concerning which there is no difference of
opinion. It is haraam for a man to look at a woman’s ‘awrah
and for a woman to look at a man’s ‘awrah, according to
scholarly consensus. An exception is made for the married couple, who
may look at one another’s ‘awrahs.
Fath al-Baari (9/338, 339).
Conclusion:
It is not permissible for you to ask your friend to shave your pubic
hair for you, or to let her do that. If you do that, you will both be
committing a major sin, and you will not be excused for that, because
it is easy to find other ways of removing this hair, such as using the
well known depilatories, if you cannot use a razor.
This is permissible in cases of necessity when one is unable to move,
or if one is sick or insane and other cases where a man or woman is
unable to shave the pubic hair.
And Allaah knows best.
"Fa maadza ba'da-lhaqq, illa-dl_dlalaal"
Leo Imanov
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