On Apr 10, 2007, at 5:17 PM, Kenneth Kixmoeller/fh wrote:
> Other rules to add? Debate some? (As hard as that would be of *you*
> folks! <g>)
In general, all of these are excellent points. But there is one I
take strong exception to:
> 8. Your fundamental goal in life is to help, satisfy and support your
> spouse. For a man, "Yes, Dear" is the most important phrase in a
> marriage. Really.
I know that this is the standard advice, and it certainly helps
short-term, but long-term it is poison. It establishes a lop-sided
approach to disagreements, and sets the stage for the inevitable
point where the thing that is being discussed is something you feel
strongly enough to actually vocalize. After years of hearing nothing
but 'Yes, dear', to suddenly hear opposition usually takes the
discussion from where it was to a very dark and angry place.
Notice how nobody ever advises women to simply say 'Yes, dear' when
their husbands propose something?
-- Ed Leafe
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