di tempat yg baik, pasti ada 1-2 kejahatan yang terjadi. Di antara kejahatan-kejahatan pasti ada hal-hal yg baik yg terjadi.
Memang ada kasus-kesus mengerikan, tapi juga ada kebaikan-kebaikan yg munkgin dilakukan orang lain. Mana domba beneran dan mana serigala nyamar jadi domba dan menghancurkan anak-anak yg datang kepada Tuhan, itu dilihat dari buah nya. --- In [email protected], "bch_bagus" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > --- In [email protected], "Jusfiq Hadjar" > <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote: > > > > Saya ulang: di dunia Nasrani, masaalah shyahwat ini sudah lama > > dibicarakan dan terus dibicarakan.. > > > > Dengan sengit.... > > > > Soal pedofilia dikalangan rohaniwan, perkosaan yang suka terjadi > > terhadap biarawati, homoseksualitas... > > > > Pandangan Paus yang lalu dan Paus yang sekarang bertentangan > > dengan pandangan Hans Kung misalnya... > > > > Semua diperdebatkan, didiskusikan... > > > > Dengan terbuka. > > > > Ooo, gitu ya Oom, lulusan Sciences Po, Paris. Tapi silakan baca aja > tulisan di bawah ini untuk tambah wawasan. > > > The Priesthood: A Closer Look > Select Stories from Across the Nation > > > > 'Code of silence' among priests shields abusers > > Hundreds of clergy were victims as children, many experts believe > > Thursday, September 23, 2004 > http://snapnetwork.org/priest_stories/code_of_silence.htm > By MICHELLE NICOLOSI > SEATTLE POST-INTELLIGENCER > > When the Rev. Lawrence Minder told his congregation last month that he > had been abused by a priest 30 years ago, the Bothell priest became > one of a handful of Roman Catholic priests nationwide to break an > unspoken vow: Thou Shalt Not Accuse Fellow Clergy. > > Though parishioners at St. Brendan Catholic Church were startled to > hear that their pastor had been abused by a fellow priest, many > experts believe Minder is one of hundreds of Catholic clergy who were > sexually abused by priests when they were children. > > Afraid of the personal and professional consequences of reporting > their abuse, many keep their allegations to themselves -- even though > the men who abused them are often still practicing priests dealing > with children on a daily basis. > > "There's this code of silence -- you don't criticize another priest. > You don't tarnish the image of the church," said the Rev. Gary Hayes, > a priest in Kentucky who says he was abused by a priest when he was 15. > > Hayes, 52, was one of the first priests to go public with allegations > that he'd been abused by a priest. He said he has met or heard of > about 50 priests who say they have been abused by priests, and he > suspects there may be "hundreds" more. > > Priests who point fingers at other clergy "don't make any friends in > the church, I'll tell you that much," said the Rev. John Bambrick, a > New Jersey priest who said he was also abused by a priest when he was 15. > > "I know guys who came forward, and it was disastrous. Priests shun > you. It gets to be very, very messy -- I think a lot of guys don't > want to get caught up in that mess." > > Bambrick said he knows of about 20 priests who have been abused by > priests. He and Hayes have started a support group for priests abused > by priests called Jordan's Crossing. > > Seattle's most notorious priest accused of sexual abuse -- the Rev. > James McGreal -- allegedly said he was abused by a priest. Snohomish > psychiatric nurse Maryalyce Stamatiou said McGreal made the admission > in a 1987 meeting with her about his alleged abuse of her brother. > > The Seattle Archdiocese has received allegations of abuse against > McGreal from 40 accusers -- more than any other priest in the > archdiocese, said spokesman Greg Magnoni. The archdiocese settled with > 16 of McGreal's accusers last year and this year for $8.6 million, > Magnoni said. > > McGreal -- who is now living in the Midwest in a facility for priests > accused of sexual abuse -- could not be reached for comment. Magnoni > said he had not heard about McGreal's alleged admission; he said > personnel information of this nature is confidential. > > Peter Cimbolic, a psychologist who specializes in treating priests, > said he has treated 15 to 20 priests who have been abused by priests. > He said most have not come forward because they don't want to cause > trouble for themselves, for the church and for the priests who abused > them. > > Often, they believe their abuse was unique -- and that their abuser is > not victimizing others, he said. > > Cimbolic echoed Hayes' perspective. > > "There has been a code of silence, an unspoken code not to ruin the > reputation of men in the priesthood, not to cause problems within the > society of priests. I think that's a real phenomenon," said Cimbolic, > who was previously vice provost at The Catholic University of America > in Washington, D.C., and is now provost of Bellarmine University in > Kentucky. > > Richard Sipe, a therapist and author who said he has reviewed more > than 2,000 clergy abuse cases as a consultant, expert witness or as a > therapist, agrees "this is not rare." > > Sipe said priest abuse of boys who then go on to become priests > creates a cycle that is partly to blame for the high incidence of > sexual abuse of children by clergy. > > "There is a clerical genealogy in some of these cases: A priest abuses > and he was abused and the priest who abused him was abused and > etcetera, etcetera," said Sipe. > > Studies show that most victims of child abuse do not go on to become > abusers themselves. But research suggests that most abusers were > abused when they were children. > > There are no studies looking at how many of the 44,212 active Catholic > priests nationwide have been abused by fellow clergy, but Sipe says > he's seen it in many of the cases he has reviewed. "I would say that's > a common experience," he said. > > Many experts believe 10 to 16 percent of men were sexually abused as > boys. Priests likely are abused as boys at rates similar to the > general population, said the Rev. Stephen Rossetti, president of the > St. Luke Institute in Maryland, a residential treatment programs for > priests and other church figures. > > While some believe clergy abuse of priests is fairly common, Rossetti > does not. > > "It happens, but I don't think it's very common in terms of numbers," > said Rossetti. "I don't see a lot of it." > > A recent review of the personnel records of 4,392 clergy accused of > abuse, commissioned by the U.S. Conference of Bishops, found that 47 > said they had been abused by priests. Researchers warned that number > may be low because "unless a priest self-disclosed his own prior abuse > or it had been specifically raised as an issue, there might not have > been an indication of abuse in Church files." > > One Midwestern priest who asked not to be named said two priests > abused him when he was a boy in the 1950s. Both priests took him on > trips and spent the night in the same motel bed with him, snuggling up > to him and touching him. > > He said he hasn't come forward because his abusers are dead. "I don't > see what good would come of that," he said. If his abusers were still > working as priests, he'd likely report the abuse, he said. > > He said he has informally surveyed fellow priests to see how common > his experience is. Of the 10 or 15 priests he asked, most said priests > abused them when they were younger, he said. > > "I thought my case was very unique," he said. But then "I have said to > different guys I know, 'Were you ever abused?' And quite a few said > yes. I was surprised. I think it's very widespread." > > Of the 187 priests in the Seattle Archdiocese, Minder is the only one > the archdiocese knows of who has allegedly been abused by a priest, > said Magnoni. > > Minder wrote in a Sept. 8 letter to parishioners, "Despite what public > perception may be, there are many priests who have suffered ... > bishops seem to have ignored the needs of clergy in their own ranks > who suffer the same needs as other victims of clergy sexual abuse." > > The Seattle Archdiocese -- and most dioceses around the country -- has > not specifically called on priests sexually abused by clergy to come > forward with their allegations and to name their abusers. Magnoni said > the archdiocese has no special outreach for abused priests; he said > clergy are aware that the archdiocese has a hot line that abuse > victims can call if they have an allegation to report. > > Minder told parishioners at three Masses over one weekend in August > that he was sexually abused about 30 years ago by a priest, and that > his alleged abuser had been allowed to continue working as a priest. > > Bambrick and a number of other priests who said they were abused by > priests said the same thing happened to them: Instead of firing the > priests they named as abusers, church officials allowed them to > transfer to other dioceses. > > Minder told parishioners he planned to resign because the Seattle > Archdiocese asked him to undergo a psychological evaluation and to > give officials access to his medical records. > > "I could not tolerate a level of disclosure to the archbishop as an > employer which violates standards laid down by federal law protecting > the confidentiality of medical records," he wrote in a Sept. 8 letter > to parishioners. Minder has not returned calls for comment. > > Archdiocese officials later said they do not need to see Minder's > medical records -- but they do want to be kept aware of Minder's > condition and progress. Ultimately, Minder agreed not to resign, and > to take a leave of absence instead. > > Minder did not name the person who allegedly abused him nor the > diocese that handled the claim, but according to two people at the > Yakima Diocese, Minder lodged an abuse claim against a priest there. > > Minder alleged he was abused by the Rev. Richard Scully as a teen, > said attorney Russell Mazzola, chairman of the Yakima Diocese's lay > advisory board. Minder wrote to the diocese about the matter in 2003, > and it was referred to the lay advisory board, Mazzola said. > > It is unclear when Minder originally made his allegation. > > The Amarillo Diocese in Texas hired Scully in 1989 after the Yakima > Diocese sent him to a facility in Jemez Springs, N.M., that treats > sexual offenders. According to The Dallas Morning News, the Yakima > Diocese settled two claims filed against Scully. The Amarillo Diocese > stripped Scully of his ministerial powers in the spring of 2002, after > receiving some non-abuse-related complaints about him, according to > Harold Waldow, a vicar in the diocese. > > Minder left for the Mayo Clinic last week for a physical and > psychological evaluation. He is struggling with painkiller and > alcohol-use issues, and is receiving ongoing care for those issues, > said Magnoni. > > The Seattle Archdiocese has not received any allegations of abuse > against Minder, who wrote in his Sept. 8 letter to his congregation > that many abused priests "have not gone on to abuse children but have > served faithfully and well and are good and reliable priests." > > Minder wrote that his decision to share the details of his abuse "was > a necessary risk. I believe a great deal of good can come when priests > who were abused by other clergy can feel free to step forward, > disclose and get help." ------------------------ Yahoo! Groups Sponsor --------------------~--> In low income neighborhoods, 84% do not own computers. At Network for Good, help bridge the Digital Divide! http://us.click.yahoo.com/S.QlOD/3MnJAA/Zx0JAA/uTGrlB/TM --------------------------------------------------------------------~-> Post message: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subscribe : [EMAIL PROTECTED] Unsubscribe : [EMAIL PROTECTED] List owner : [EMAIL PROTECTED] Homepage : http://proletar.8m.com/ Yahoo! Groups Links <*> To visit your group on the web, go to: http://groups.yahoo.com/group/proletar/ <*> To unsubscribe from this group, send an email to: [EMAIL PROTECTED] <*> Your use of Yahoo! Groups is subject to: http://docs.yahoo.com/info/terms/
