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Tuesday, 23, August, 2005 (18, Rajab, 1426)
Punishing Disobedient Wives
Ghada Al-Hori . Al-Watan
I find it unacceptable when some people twist the meaning of a particular
verse in the Holy Qur'an - especially the one which permits a husband to beat
his disobedient wife. Those who do the twisting must understand that the
permission is only given under certain circumstances and that the beating is
intended as a remedy for specific situations. It is unfortunate that some
well-known and respected Muslim scholars have either willingly or unwillingly
joined a campaign seeking to distort the meaning of that particular verse.
In many cases, they have given a different meaning from the one actually
intended. The verse - number 34 in Surah IV - reads as follows: "Men are the
protectors and maintainers of women because Allah has given the one more
(strength) than the other, and because they support them from their means.
Therefore, righteous women are devotedly obedient and guard in (the husband's)
absence what Allah would have them guard. And to those women on whose part ye
fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first) and (then) refuse to
share their beds (and last) beat them (lightly), but if they return to
obedience, seek not against them means of annoyance."
It is quite obvious here that Islam adopts a gradual approach starting
with verbal admonishment of the wife, then seeks a period of refraining from
conjugal relations and, finally, if the husband finds the situation very
serious, he may strike his disobedient wife.
Some scholars have even suggested that the punishment (beating) cited
here is not of the physical nature and that what the husband is required to do
is stay away from the disobedient wife. In short, they say the husband should
leave the house and go to another place. This is not what is actually intended
in the verse.
The beating which is only prescribed in the case of disobedient wives is
intended to serve as a remedy in an unusual situation. If the husband feels the
wife is behaving in a disobedient and rebellious manner, he is required to
rectify her attitude - first by kind words, then gentle persuasion and
reasoning. Beating as a last resort must never be understood to entail using a
stick or any other instrument that would cause pain or injury.
A rebellious woman who is not moved by kind works, persuasion and
admonition is a woman of no feeling and must therefore be punished by beating.
Psychiatrists tell us of people, including women, for whom a cure lies in
beating.
The controversy over the beating of disloyal and rebellious women is part
of the campaign against Islam. If beating disobedient wives was advocated by
Western scientists, it would have been widely supported by the same people who
criticize Islam and special centers would have been set up all over the world
to train husbands on how to beat their wives.
Our scholars should focus on explaining to people, especially the young,
the real teachings of Islam in order to avoid causing uncertainty and confusion.
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