Re: [QUAD-L] wheelchair/speed

[Smurfonwheels]

In a message dated 30/07/2004 00:04:53 GMT Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes: I haven't really tried.  I'm not so worried about it.  I just mentioned it in a response to someone's email.  I will hopefully be driving in the next few months and then I won't really have a need for it, but thanks for asking.    I read your post about your gentlemen friends.  I'm sorry that Nathan wasn't mature enough to handle things.  Not everyone can handle it.  It's can be tough for some to deal with it.  I never understood why because I certainly didn't care even when I was AB.  I never knew anyone in a chair personally, but also knew that if you cared enough about someone you could work through it.  Even knowing what I know now, I could have handled it in the past.  Anyhow, better that you know now than later.  Be careful with this Steve man.  I'm concerned that he said he loves you already.  Mike and I have been a couple about a month and I know to take it slow and my advice to you is to do the same.  You are young and have plenty of time.  I know you feel comfortable with him, but take your time.  I can defiantly understand your attraction to him. Until now I have always dated men older than me.  Guys my age were so immature, but now I am at the age where the men my age have stability and that's what I have always wanted in the past.  Let me know how it goes with Steve and he better be good to you.  If he hurts you he's got a lot of people to answer to and he will never be safe if he wants a trip to the states.  We have lots of areas covered.  LOL!!! Stacy Hey Stacy,   Hows you doing?  Thanks for your email!  So cool about the driving, are you looking forward to it?  I guess even though now you don't see a need forit as such, the fact that the option is there can create heaps more independance, especially mentally!   It was a shame that things didn't work out between me and Nathan, his only 2 years older than me and is a typical boy racer so I don't think his really got to grips with his own life and responsibilities properly yet, let alone try and understand life from a disableds point of view!  I know it's not his fault though, I guess if you've never had any reason to grow up fast you don't!   Steve, thankfully is a completely different story.  I think the only reason why his pushing things faster than normal is because he is really happy being with me, and I have to admit I'm really happy being with him to.  Put I'm going to copy some of your email onto laptop as part of the wallpaper to remind me to keep things moving slow!!  I guess as well if I try to rush things with Steve I'm not going to treasure all the small and valuable things about him.    So how are things going with Mike?  You sound like your really happy with him, which is great to hear!!!  Do you get to meet up with him often?   Well, all I can say to Steve is that I hope he never upsets me or I'll just have to send him out to you guys! lol There's only a couple of us on here who comes from the UK so we will have to run the toes over if Mike upsets you - threaten him with us and problem solved! lol   Take care Stacy, and thanks for your advise   Love Smurf xxx