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9 out of 10 closest friend are single females whom at one point was
attracted to me and even had relationships with but since my injury I am like
their confidant sharing advise on who they would like to be
with.
tahouston
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Monday, January 03, 2005 8:35
PM
Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Frustration
Stacy,
I'm a par and I also can't feel
my leg. But I had sexual feelings. Exp rely if I'm with someone I really
want to be with. My trouble is that men treat me and see me as there friend or
sister. In fact quad men are the same way. It really bothers me I'm hot and
their not. Now that is frustration!
Thanks Stacy,
I appreciate your honesty, thanks Stacy
Love Smurf xxx
In a message dated 01/01/2005 04:07:42 GMT Standard Time,
[EMAIL PROTECTED] writes:
I do have those feelings yes. I don't understand it though because I
don't have feeling in my legs, but I do in those areas. I'm not sure to
what extent because I haven't 'been' with anyone since I got sick. Of
course I have experimented, but don't really have any desire to and I
think when or at this rate if I am with anyone, that is when I will
know. I do have a sore on the bottom of my foot and that
hurts me as well. I don't get it. My doctor said that the
nerves to your pelvic area are the most protected on the spine so if I
were to feel anywhere, it would be there. I do get sporadic
sensations on my legs but never in the same places all the time. My
doctor also told me that with my disease, it makes things very
strange. No SCI is the same, but I am very much different because of
the way it happened. I don't know if I ever explained it but my
spine is very atrophied because of the disease and the damage! left over
from the inflammation the spine is still very much intact. I still
sweat below my injury level, but the swelling is quite bad and I have more
spasticity than most spinal cord patients.
I'm having a hard time going through the holidays single. Most of my
friends are married and/or have children. I don't have hardly any
family and didn't have them here for Christmas and now alone for New
Years. I find myself very left out because I don’t have
anyone. One of my best friends pretty much only does things with
other couples. Like going out to dinner, playing cards, etc.
She helps me through the waiver program, so the time we spend together is
when she is here helping me out with something. She just got in an
accident and her car got totaled plus she got a broken arm. I can't
get into her new car because it's too low and awkward to transfer out of,
so we don't really do anything together anymore. It's been difficult
getting through the holidays and will be glad when they are over.
I'm just not looking forward to the next 6 weeks while everyone is
making their valentines day arrangements.
I am happy that everything is going well for you and Steve.
When the time is right, everything will happen naturally. It's
wonderful that he isn't pushing you into anything you are not ready to
do. Keep taking it slow.
Sorry for the book,
Stacy
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