Those sorts of situations are rare ones. You don't see para's and
quads together in situations like that very often.
Stacy
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Sent: Monday, January 10, 2005 3:54
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Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] ,,,,paras vs
quads
I for one had a woman who was interested in me and even eventually became
my roommate, however, she fell for a paraplegic with extraordinarily similar
appearance and character attributes. I did not attribute this slight as the
result of him being a paraplegic and me being a quadriplegic -- at least, not
at the time. Later it became more more evident that she viewed my need for
assistance in doing many things as being a burden that she was unwilling to
bear. Simply put, she had a choice between a para and a quad and her decision
was for the more independent person. By the way, we not only had
extraordinarily similar appearance and character attributes, but we had
virtually the same financial situation. I believe Tony's example also shows
there is an extraordinary difference between paraplegics and quadriplegics.
I'm not saying that the woman fell for him purely because he was a paraplegic,
but I feel she was more open to his enticements due to the physical
disparities betw! een us.
Billy from Tampa
C2-3
9 years post Stacy Harim
<[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Ok, then you are right if there is a quad and a para next to each other
or a person has a choice on whether they have a chance to date either a para
or a quad. I feel that it is rare that a person would say, well if
that quad was a para then I would date them.
Stacy
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Sent: Saturday, January 08, 2005 9:10
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Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] ,,,,paras vs
quads
In a message dated 1/8/2005 1:14:46 PM
Eastern Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED]
writes:
Your right in the aspect of everyday life. Of
course I know that. The statement was related to
relationships. Para's are still seen as paralyzed. In the
aspect of getting looked at as a sexual being is just as hard for para's
to face. To the opposite sex paralyzed is
paralyzed.
hmmmmm, i have to SOMEWHAT
disagree.....there's a para-dude that works in a department near mine,
we've known each other for years coz we're the only two goodlookin guys in
chairs in whole building. Anyway, he's so much more capable than me,
and i think that's evident to the opposite sex....he drives a pickup
truck, opens doors, does everything anyone else can do. Me, they see
my poor ass struggle for everything....i even need help getting in the
front door. That kinda dependance is NOT attracti! ve....but i get,
and have gotten, my share of chicks, so i'm not bitching, but i know by
watching Billy, it's a LOT easier to win over girls when you can do
everything with no dependence. I'm still better lookin than him,
even though he's 10 yrs younger, and i'm a lot more talented...my last two
feathers in my cap!! lol
Weird, but i think we had a
competitive-thang going on for years, but we're cool now. Does
anyone else ever feel that competitiveness with someone else in a
chair??? Curious!!
-tony
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