Title: Sci appearances
I had bumper stickers on my last chair. I had a few and usually
started conversation. The one that attracted the most attention was "I'm
not in the mood to be stared at" I have a soft back on this chair so no
stickers. I do keep my chair very clean though. I see others in
filthy chairs and wonder how they deal with it. That is attracting the
wrong kind of attention. These are para's im talking about. There is
no excuse for it.
Stacy
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Saturday, January 22, 2005 10:36
PM
Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Re: Sci
appearances
Jim
Right on! We may or may not have lost that "Loving feeling" from
the opposite sex but there is always that chance. Also, what PA upon
meeting you would want to work for you if you were filthy and
unpresentable. For God sakes, It is just daily hygien and manners wether
one is injured or not.
I also hate it how some/ most power chair quads treat their chair like a
car bumper or billboard with stickers all over the chair, marking and mostly
dirt, dust and filth.
Dillon
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, January 12, 2005 11:33
PM
Subject: [QUAD-L] Re: Sci
appearances
I agree with you there definatly. There have been times that when
I have to go somewhere after looking like a bum all day. I get
changed, brush my hair, and if I look terrible that day, throw on a little
makeup. I don't want to be seen in that way at all and you never know
who you are going to run into where I live so I really want to look good in
case I run into someone I know, I don't want them to go and tell everyone
how horrible I looked and have everyone feel bad for me.
Stacy
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, January 12, 2005
5:14 PM
Subject: Sci appearances
Jim you
are correct about taking care yourself to look attractive. I see a lot of
my neighbors there are wheelchairs looking like they just don�t care about
their appearance any more. And I fill that them looking and dressing as
they do it has an effect of the way others look towards me and everyone
else in wheelchairs. Just because I�m disabled doesn�t mean that I have to
look as if I and homeless and a bum. Just as several of my neighbors will
go up to the grocery store with their overnight bed bag hanging on the
outset of their chairs. Which looks a mess it reflects upon the others in
our community that are in chairs. I don�t want to see it and I know that
the average AB truly doesn�t want to see it. I understand if there�s no
other way but if you could put it in a bag so that everyone didn�t have 2
C your piss well why not. They go around as if it�s a new fashion
statement.
On 1/11/05 3:12 PM, "[EMAIL PROTECTED]"
<[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
Dave,
I know that I'm paralyzed and
I accept the fact that I am. I know what I can do and I know what
I cannot do from experience. When I first got injured I figured I
could still do just about everything I did before but I learned quickly
how vulnerable I was and what being paralyzed was all about. It
seemed like just about every time I blew off my commonsense and my
spider sense I ended up in trouble. Now, I respect that I am
paralyzed and can only do so much so I better pay attention to my senses
otherwise am going to be in trouble especially in the
wintertime.
I know that I am not looked at as a sexual
object because of the way I look in a wheelchair. Even though I
lost a lot of weight since my injury I still have a large quad gut,
which makes me look somewhat obese and unattractive. Even if you
are in a wheelchair you still have to take care of yourself to make
yourself look attractive to the opposite
sex.
Jim
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