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Before my injury I was quite a stud. I married a young lady
nine years younger than myself who could have been a model and was quite devoted
and committed to our relationship. We accumulated and rented three homes
in Gary and built a four flat in the Chicago area. While on vacation
driving to Cincinnati Ohio to a bowling tournament we were in an auto accident
and the marriage went downhill immediately. She told me that I could no
longer take care of her like I used to and she had to move on.
Now I still get to talk to the ladies when I go out and I get the
kisses in the hugs but unselect that is more in a sympathetic or empathetic mode
that I can detect. Many of them always asked for my phone number and
address, but there are very few calls and visits are negligible. And even
the phone conversation is more about how am I doing and how I feel but hardly
ever can I come over and spent some time with you, go out to a movie or dinner
or just chill together. Many think I have a little money saved up and they
end up telling me their problems and what they need. I believe that once
they see the chair figure they can do better. I have friends at the rehab
who had nice settlements for their injuries (paras or incl quads who resemble
para) have no big problems datings. They even drive their own
cars.
T A Houston
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Friday, February 11, 2005 2:39
PM
Subject: [QUAD-L] Pushing in rain////
SNOW :( :( :(
Tony,
I
know that you have a lot of rain down there. I can�t remember if you answered
this or not. How do you manage 2 push your chair when it�s raining? I
can�t get anywhere when the tires get wet. Oh and I�ve never even tried
pushing in snow. I see the paras pushin thru it with no problems. Are there
any quads that push there chairs thru snow? With or without quad-pegs? Do they
have any quad pegs that don�t look like they do? I guess I�m kinda want 2 be
fashionable and practical. I push fine without quad pegs until I get 2 in
climate weather.
On 2/7/05 10:02 PM, "[EMAIL PROTECTED]"
<[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
In a message
dated 2/7/2005 9:00:01 PM Eastern Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED]
writes:
I have a theory about
sexuality and spinal cord injuries. I believe that the lower the
injury level or higher the function a the site is the SCI individuals the
more attractive women or men will be to that person. Though I
hold no grudge against paraplegics or low level quadriplegics, I think it is
so much easier to introduce yourself to women and break the ice as well as
develop a relationship when that person is not confronted with a bulky
electric chair etc.. I might be wrong and I hope I am but does it not
just seems paraplegics have it so much easier. Not only from personal
observation but in advice columns I read, magazines and even on the covers
of disability magazines, all I see or read about his couples who are
paraplegics or low level quadriplegics/higher
functioning.
I never read about
quadriplegics with very little function either through their neck or upper
arms getting the girl.
What do you think?
Please prove me
wrong
Dillon
Dillon....i think ur theory
is right GENERALLY, but not always. People are drawn for all different
motives...some not so good!! I'm c5c6, but look like a para...push
chair, no side arms, can push fairly well, so these things do help me, but i
think when a girl gets the idea i'm much more disabled in my hands than she
thinks it can really blow it...but i have had many girls sexually post
injury, most get over the chair quick, but u might be right, it's not as
cumbersome as power chair...i mean, they can usually sit on my lap facing
me, one leg on each side of me...i put my arms around the small of their
waist.
I've thought a lot about power vs pushchair, and i know it
would knock a hole in my attractiveness if i were in power. Still,
being attractive isn't everything...i'm still a quad that gets his heart
broken ocassionly...broke a few in my time too, so what comes around goes
round.
-tony c5c6 24 yrs post car vs tree
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