Re: [QUAD-L] Relationships and Romances

[Smurfonwheels]

In a message dated 11/02/2005 21:19:29 GMT Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes: Hi Jim,   I'm not sure that because the people here aren't in relationships with other people like ourselves means we here wouldn't every WANT to be a relationship with other people like ourselves.  There are AB people that don't have a problem being in relationships with us even with our disabilities.  Personally, I don't know a female that lives anywhere close to me, so just because I'm in a relationship with an AB girl seems logical to me.  I think my GF would say she sees me as a person that she is attracted to, not a person in a chair that she is attracted to.   IMHO!     With Love, CtrlAltDel aka Dave C4/5 Complete - 28 Years Post Texas, USA          I know there's a lot of people in the world who simply don't like people in wheelchairs; or in fact anyone who's got a disability or who are slightly different from societies verson of normal.  When I first met Steve I was really surprised that he was remotely interested in me, simply because I was disabled.  When I got to know him properly, and found out that he was a paramedic I told myself that he wouldn't want to be with me because he works with injuried people, he won't want to spend his private life with someone injuried as well.  But, I was really surprised and shocked when he asked if I would be his girlfriend!  We talked about how I felt about it afterwards, and it turns out that yes, he saw that I was in a wheelchair, but that's where it stopped.  His eyes saw my disability, but his mind and personality saw me, which is what's important at the end of the day.  And now he doesn't blink an eyelid at me.  His attitude is "I've got a car, you've got a wheelchair - where's the issue?!"  So I guess there really is people out there who isn't put of by our disabilities!   Love Smurf xxx