terri's parents are being etremely selfish. it's what they want, not what she wants.
dave headman c4-26yrs post
From: "Tod E. Santee" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: Quad List <[email protected]> CC: [EMAIL PROTECTED] Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Shedding light on terri's situation Date: Sat, 26 Mar 2005 17:18:55 -0700
Eric,
There's a fundamental difference between not wanting to live "like that" and being willing to accept it if someone is willing to take care of you.
If someone said, "I do not ever want to live like that. Do not make me live under those circumstances." ... And then when such a thing occurs, mom or dad or spouse says, "Oh, I'll take care of him/her and keep ____ alive, and clean, and bathed, and nourished, yadayadasoandso." ... THEN mom, dad, spouse is going against your wishes.
I don't wish to live as a quad... but I accept it and all the problems and benefits that come with it. I know others who truly would wish to be allowed to die under these same circumstances, even given all the opportunities and assistance for independence that exists. i know people who could not handle being a para! To me, that's unbelievable... but should anyone legislate to force them to live "like that" against their wishes?
To answer Jim's question, the "harm in letting them" (care for a person if they were willing to) would be the nearly intangible harm of inflicting a forced, unwanted existence upon a person who might have already expressed the desire to not exist in such a condition.
I don't feel anyone should violate that desire as it runs contrary to the "pursuit of happiness" of that individual.
Best regards, Tod
----- Original Message -----
Eric Olson wrote:
You said you wouldn't choose to live like that. What if you ended up like the person in your example tomorrow and your mother was willing to take care of you? Wouldn't she be going against your wishes? This whole situation just makes me sad.
Jim Lubin wrote:
I would not chose to live like that. I'm not about to decide another person's quality of life based on my personal criteria. If someone is willing to care for a person in that condition what is the harm in letting them?
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