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I agree totally with Dana.
I saw my parents (who owned their own business work 12+ hour days) fall into the trap
of letting some relatives do this over & over. Stayed till 2AM KNOWING my parent's
situation. Just plain rude if ya ask me.
My sister & husband now do the same thing. Unwanted relatives stop in RIGHT AT
DINNER WITHOUT CALLING FIRST. They've allowed this for over a decade so, ask Dr Phil says ...
"You teach people how to treat you."
I have church company over some late mornings but I *make it clear* that I have to go
eat/take meds, etc and limit their visit to 90 minutes or less.
Lori
-------Original Message-------
Date: 04/27/05 16:49:15
Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Depression ~ what to do :(
Thats a tough one--asking visitors to leave. Sometimes you just have to get
assertive. They probably had no idea you missed supper. Maybe asking one
of them to help you get it out of the fridge or whatever will trigger them
to remember you need to eat! That should also make them leave! I am on a
schedule too, and if I don't eat at certain times my blood sugar "can" fall.
I always make sure I eat before going to bed.
It doesn't bother me quite so much if I am out with friends, but when in my
apartment, it 'is' harder to keep your mind off of it, especially just
sitting or even watching a movie. I agree, it is 'hard' on us to have
company for a length of time.
Try and get their minds off of whatever 'they' are doing and hopefully will
take a hint like asking them to get your pills, or supper, or a drink of
water.
Be assertive but be nice about it. They should understand. Make sure you
make it clear you want to continue seeing them, maybe even make another
date, or follow up a few days later to set a date. On the days they stay
too long, boy does that bed feel good! take care,
Dana
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Wednesday, April 27, 2005 5:18 PM
Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Depression ~ what to do :(
> Hi Dana,
> lm sort of the same way, take yesterday for example I had company all
> frigging day till 9: 30. I missed the 4:00 pm cath also missed supper, I
> was so shacken that I couldn't sleep when I finally did get in the bed.
> Ive sort of got in a routine but when something breaks it I have real
> trouble. How do you politely tell people to leave, they mean well but hell
> im a quad and can't stand guest that stay to long. Wore out. Silas
> ----- Original Message -----
> Sent: Wednesday, April 27, 2005 11:42 AM
> Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Depression ~ what to do :(
>
>
>>I have a tendancy to stay away of some of the things I used to enjoy. Its
>>not as bad now, but every now and then something will come up that I used
>>to enjoy but cannot participate now, so just stay away.
>>
>> Dana
>> ----- Original Message -----
>> Sent: Tuesday, April 26, 2005 2:43 PM
>> Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Depression ~ what to do :(
>>
>>
>>> Well Bobbie listening to music would make me a bit more depressed since
>>> I danced Professional Latin ..... and I can feel rhytme in every song
>>> ...... try to keep your mind active with everthing ..... music is
>>> soothing.
>>>
>>> QuadMedic
>>>
>>> David K. Kelmer wrote:
>>>
>>>> Hi Bobbie,
>>>>
>>>> I've got to have a lot of natural light. The warmer the better
>>>> because I can wear less, and so can everyone else! Give me a good
>>>> sunrise and someone to share it with and my day is made. :-)
>>>>
>>>>
>>>>
>>>> With Love,
>>>>
>>>> CtrlAltDel aka Dave
>>>> C4/5 Complete - 29 Years Post
>>>> Texas, USA
>>>>
>>>> I'm been very depressed lately. What do you guys do to ward it
>>>> "it" off? I've been listening to some of my favorite music and
>>>> talking to friends and my sweetheart.
>>>> Help ~ Bobbie
>>>>
>>>
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>>
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