Re: [QUAD-L] Men and Women Quaids

Sun, 06 Nov 2005 14:27:21 -0800

Yes i'm sure most forget our 'checklists' when love hits.  i'v had a few disabled dates but nothing that was real 'special'.  i love the ones that see me in 'distress' of some sort and come to my rescue.  one was at a bennigans dance floor on a friday night.  i went in with my buddies and took one look at the mass of drunken humanity and decided i'd rather eat.  some middle aged mama followed me and explained how she saw my buddies dump me and she assured me i was more than welcome to share her table when i came back in.  me, whoda thunk it?
 
yes my m.i.l was a major pia just before i got married and wasn't much better afterward.  she tolerates me now but i'm sure she'd rather have her daughter married to a 'normal' guy - even after 33 years of wedded bliss.  dave


Brien Stocker <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
 
I would venture a guess that as many as not look for things, rather than  people  or love.  What do you guess the divorce rate is for post injury disabled marriages?  probably close to 0%, maybe!

haveagreatday,

Brien
don't be silly liz, why would anybody knowingly go out and buy damaged goods.  all psychological things being equal, why buy a dead horse.  everyone has garbage both physical AND mental.  why look for a broken body, just to prove something?  if it happens, it happens bu one doesn't go out purposly LOOKING for a broken mate.  i think i'll go find me a gimp to live with the rest of my life... not.
 
AB's come with garbage just as much as a quad does.  Disability comes in many forms.  just because a guy can crap on his own doesn't make him better than anyone else.
 
point is;  Never settle.  You are worthy of being loved by someone and loving someone in return.
----- Original Message -----
From: A.B.C.
Sent: Saturday, November 05, 2005 7:38 PM
Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Men and Women Quaids

what a silly question.  a quaid person is someone who will need some 'taking care of' physically, and an AB isn't.  why buy a bag of troubles when there are other choices?  i can't even imagine a quaid prefering another quaid over an AB all other things being equal. 
 


Liz <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
I'm opening a can of worms here.  Disabled individuals fall in love with AB or other disabled folks.  Love is love.  I know of people in chairs (definitely not a PC term) that have fallen in love and have married.)  Personally I have been attracted to athletic, financially stable guys (quads and paras) I met playing  wheelchair tennis.  We swapped some spit but due to distance never pursued anything.
 
I happened to find a guy by chance who's AB and it works out for me.  he is not my caregiver, as it is my belief , I think it would add a stressful situation.  Some quads make it work with their lover as their caregiver.  I am not one of those.
 
I did get my NM magazine today.  If you would like I can mail it to you.
 
You may want to enable spellchecker on your emails as it may clarify some wording.
 
Liz
----- Original Message -----
To: Liz
Sent: Saturday, November 05, 2005 3:53 PM
Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Men and Women Quaids


Thank you Lis,
Yes you gave me the womens point of view with the stories from the new newmobility magazine,Yes, I am a paras. Can I ask you one more quistion. Is it more easyer to have a AB man?
Wheelchair Warrior 
Liz <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> wrote:
I'm sorry I'm not quite sure what you are asking? 
 Body image?
Why there are more AB women with quad guys?  (statistically as there are more male SCI than women?)
Why a quad man would not date a quad women?
Are you including paras?
 
 
Many of the quad women I know are involved with AB men (including myself).
 
There's an article in the new newmobility magazine @ women with disabilities and body image.  I haven't received my copy yet but the cover pic is on their website
----- Original Message -----
Sent: Saturday, November 05, 2005 2:47 PM
Subject: [QUAD-L] Men and Women Quaids

I have been wondering why Quid men do not see Quid woman the same way as they see a non disabled woman. In a sexual way or as a mate. I"m doing a research and don't hold back. I also want the women view too. How do you abaut yourselfs?
Wheelchair Warrior

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