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Eric,
Unless you heard it from the Pastor's lips that "Amy is
wasting her time with you" .... it's
probably untrue and something her mom WOULD spread as
truth or her gospel. Amy's mom
"sort" of peopke need to stand on the
shoulder's of others to make them look taller or bigger.
Using a Pastor would be a perfect move on her part to puff
herself up.
I CAN'T IMAGINE ANY "Pastor" saying such a thing! Other
than cults whose leaders DO control
what is said to whom by whom.
In fact, Eric .. he's just a guy (this Pastor) who gets
one shoe on at a time. He's no 'special' thing so
in this case ... I'd go to him and straight out ask him if
he has unwarranted bad feelings about you.
If you REALLY think he said such a thing (I don't ... it
reeks of rumor) ... ask him why? Have you done
something wrong in his eyes as a human being, etc etc.
Don't let these people walk all over you. Put
that rumor to rest. AND IF YOU REALLY think he said it
... he must be an ignorant fellow. And ignorant folks
can be asked "would you like to get to know me as a
person?"
Going to this guy directly may cut Amy's mother's tongue
off a bit. Maybe not but what have you got
to lose? Even be prepared with some scripture on the poor
and infirm. :-)
Lori Michaelson
Age - 41
C4/5 complete quad, 26 years post
Tucson, AZ
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Date:
01/14/06 19:21:33
Subject:
Re: [QUAD-L] advice
Hi Eric:
It's late for me so I'll write what came to my mind
first. Amy's
mother is not practicing christianity, for it is a
religion of
forgiveness and love and good deeds. Secondly, now that
you are
Amy's spouse, Amy's family should treat you as such.
However, it's
not that simple since there's no marriage
certificate. PLEASE be
sure you have all of the correct papers (POA, Will, LIving
WIll, all
financial business in BOTH names), or else her family
could, and it
sounds like they would take control if something ever
happens to her
like illness, coma, or death. Not to mention your parental
rights...
please be cautious and keep your distance from them.
Peace,
River
On Jan 14, 2006, at 8:46 PM, William Willis wrote:
> Jeez, Eric, that's one hell of a situation. my heart
breaks for the
> two of you. She sounds like the grandmother in the
movie "Flowers
> In the Attic." Evil hiding behind a Bible.
> It is unlikely that she will change, barring some
miracle. If you
> haven't already, visit a professional counselor.
Together, perhaps
> the two of you can give Amy the strength to face up
to her. A few
> prayers wouldn't hurt either. I believe just hearing
someone else
> confirm that you are in the right would be a source
of strength.
> God bless you, my friend. Larry Willis
>
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