[QUAD-L] advice......

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Hiya Eric, Advice, to give... or not to give.  Advice, to take..... or not to take. A lawyer once advised me not to take advise without paying for it. Then he charged me for the consulation.   When offering advice or suggestions, it best to know all of the facts at one time, otherwise, the adviser, falls into the "What If" trap, with variation of the facts related to the situation.   In Eric's case, the problem is muti-level.  It starts with a relationship, includes religion, concepts & practices.  It expands into extended family relationships.  It is very multi complex'd.  To resolve one problem, one could expand or create another problem.   Love, emotion, relationships, legal issues, religion and the urge to resolve this festering relationship over the last 5 years+, with just one email, is too challenging for most individuals.  And then a baby is conceived..........   Sounds like material for a movie or book, doesn't it?   I really hope the best for You, your spouse, your household and the future of your new born.  Speculation and opinions, are just that.  They will have little value in solving or resolving your pending issues.   You don't need a string or rope.  You need a cable to handle the heavyness of your entire caseload. Each problem has to be resolved individually.  Kinda like dressing in the dark.   The best offense, is a credible defense.  And the best defense, is a credible offense.   Long after the in-laws are gone and buried, you both will have to survive on the merits of your past efforts.   You need the support and knowledge of Experts, living in and practicing in the State of Wisconsin, who are familiar with religion practices, co-habit laws, custody laws, and relationships.   You don't need the additional stress, and the affects on your body, at this time in your life.  Make contact with your local CIL in Milwaukee or one of the branches.  They may be able to refer you and your spouse to the proper experts.   You will be in our prayers and best wishes.   W             In a message dated 1/14/2006 7:10:12 PM Central Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes: Part of me hopes that, if we do tell them, it will bring us together  but I know it won't.  They will ask her to bring the baby over but only if she comes alone.  That's what they told her at Christmas.  Part of me wants to use the kid as a bargaining chip.  I'd like to call Amy's dad and tell him they better start treating Amy like a daughter deserves and quick or they will NEVER see this kid.  Anyone have an opinion? Eric