[QUAD-L] Living alone and your future

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Great Posting Bobbie!  Now that's the Bobbie I remember.  What great advise. I've always advocated "The Self Improvement Course" as part of the rehab program in major rehab hospital and among the insurance companies that have to pay those bills.   Just as I truly believe that a college graduate is usually better prepared for the business industry that someone with a high school education, anyone who incorporated a self improvement program as part of their rehab usually did better than those who just completed rehab.   Physical Trauma, is a very humbling experience.  Just ask anyone who has experienced one.  Finding out that your mind is the same, but you body responds different that it once did is both a major shock, and humbling.  Once again, the old grasshopper addage.   Higher Education, Self Improvement, Executive Training, Toastmasters, Gale Richards-corporate improvement or just as simple as a Norman Vincent Peale book, is better than nothing.   I sincerely hope that your response was read and reread by the members on this list, as it contained a very important message. "You need to be your own best friend, before you can build on other friendships and relationships."   Is it easy.  No.  But you have to start sometime... why not now.   Again, great words Bobbie! Best Wishes W   In a message dated 5/4/2006 4:12:07 PM Central Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes: I must be VERY aggressive because right from day one I asked friends to come get me or are you coming over here? When I went out dancing, shopping or picnic's I always asked guys out. I started dating while I was still in the hospital, Kevin was my PT. And I've had a boyfriend ever since, I think because I asked them out. I'm also extremely positive, when I go out, and use a ton of eye contact. I'm ALWAYS the first person to say"Hello" everywhere. When I'm down and out, I don't go out or call family or friends.   My first 4 years I lived with my Mom, then lived on Campus at college for 4 years then back with Mom until I got my section 8 apartment that I've been in since 1983. I meet my hubby 4 months before I moved in - for the first time Pete asked me out. In my apartment building there are 250 units, and I have made an effort to become friends with 6 to 8 people that I can call to help me out in a pinch if I'm in my chair or stuck in bed.  You need to first be your own best friend then you can build other friendships.     Bobbie