Re: [QUAD-L] Wayward Spouses

[Oconnelldb]

Has anyone else had to deal with this? More of us than would care to acknowledge I'm sure.  Sometimes age alone diminishes the spark we all had one time.  I've been married for 33 years to the same woman and now we both have lost most of our interest.  She also has put on a lot of weight and that also has made things difficult.  Sometimes you just settle for a good companion that loves you even tho you are disabled - sometimes they are glad you aren't too demanding in the bedroom.   Sometimes they rush to your aid whenever you are in need and otherwise in general, take care of you.  This really isn't such a bad trade for inactivity in the bedroom.  We had our days and now we have our nights - for sleep. o'c       In a message dated 7/27/2006 12:32:38 P.M. US Mountain Standard Time, [EMAIL PROTECTED] writes: Over the years I've noticed that spouses respond to our paralysis by either being 110% supportive or by checking out. That's tough. When I became paralyzed, my husband checked out. He lives in the basement and I sometimes don't see him for days. It took a long time to adjust to a situation I didn't want. Then there's the absence of touch. With ALS I can feel EVERYTHING, EVERYWHERE... I just can't move. So sex COULD be great but I lost my partner. Has anyone else had to deal with this? Sandy   Dave www.daveoconnell.com c3-inc-1967