Jeeze Bill, take a chill pill. Nobody's attacking you or the way you deal with
your disability. You expressed your opinion can't we express ours? When we are
alone and we drop something or have to turn on a light, etc. We have to, or try
to figure out a way to do it ourselves. And yes, when or if we accomplish the
task, we are - or at least I am - very pleased with my self. But this is when
no one is around.
Don't be afraid or ashamed to ask for help brother - there is no shame in it
and it makes the helper feel good about themselves. My best friend who was a
quad was making a visit to our local hospital. While exiting his van, he
slipped off the van ramp and landed on his side in a puddle - still in his
wheelchair. His PCA was holding his head out of the water so he wouldn't drown.
Ten cars drove AROUND him but nobody stopped to ask if they could help!
Finally, a little old lady stopped her car and asked if they needed help.
Anyway, don't leave this list just because someone disagrees with you. That's
what lists do. It's how we learn. Everyone here has their own opinion on bowel
and bladder care, pain management, wheelchair types, etc. We may not agree with
you but we respect you and they way YOU want to live your quadom.
Dan
At 10:07 PM 1/16/2008 -0600, Dr. William E. Heft said something that elicited
my response:
>Normal: a: according with, constituting, or not deviating from a norm, rule,
>or principle b: conforming to a type, standard, or regular pattern: occurring
>naturally <normal immunity>4 a: of, relating to, or characterized by average
>intelligence or development.
>Abnormal: deviating from the normal or average.
>
>I quote from one of my statements in my last post, "Once again, I am only
>expressing my own thoughts and ideas on these matters. Please do not assume
>me to be dictatorial or presumptuous with my statements."
>
>Or perhaps I am mistaken. I was under the impression that a member of this
>list still retained the freedom of expression.
>I quote from another source. In a move entitled 'Uncommon Valor', a movie
>that is dear to my heart because I served with many of my beloved brothers in
>Vietnam. A statement from this movie was made by an actor named "Sailor", who
>said, "Man,you don't ever quit."
>
>Yes, yes, I've heard it all before, on how men like me are politically
>incorrect for being involved in that crazy Asian war. I personally don't
>care, even though the cause of my t-1 & 2 condition is from Agent Orange. All
>I'm describing is what is best for me. I haven't and I never will quit
>trying. If I drop something, and it takes me a half an hour to pick it up,
>who's going to complain, or will the politically incorrect police come and
>arrest me? You say that it's important to conserve your strength for the
>important things, well struggling to exist everyday is my form of freedom, and
>that to me is the most important thing in life.
>
>
>Perhaps the prejudice on this list run the other way, and apparently I don't
>qualify as being a legitimate quadriplegic, at least not on this list. I made
>a mistake by joining, but that's ok, I make many mistakes. I'm sure there may
>exist other lists such as this one, or maybe there isn't. Either way it
>doesn't make any difference.
>
>Bill of Ill.
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