C,A,D I agree, communication is the key.
At 09:44 AM 1/19/2008 -0800, David K. Kelmer said something that elicited my response: >Hi Dave, > >I think I'm a lot like you on this issue. If I'm doing something that is >taking up time that I could be better using, a helping hand is appreciated. >If I'm doing something that I want to do myself, I refuse the help. What >comes down to for me is simply speaking up and letting others know how I'm >doing, and what I need or don't need done at any given time. Stay strong. > >With Love, > >CtrlAltDel aka Dave >C4/5 Complete - 31 Years Post<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = >"urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" /> ><?xml:namespace prefix = st1 ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:smarttags" >/>Texas, USA > > >[EMAIL PROTECTED] wrote: >How different we all are. If someone wants to help me, I just step back and >let them proceed. I know I can open a door or remove my jacket - after 40 >years in this, I don't feel the need to prove anything to myself any more. >People who offer to help really need to do so for some inner fulfillment. I'm >cool with that and am more than happy to help them satisfy their inner needs. >Sometimes I'm just plain damned tired of opening my own door or pouring my own >beer even though I can (in most cases). I agree with Dan about saving my >strength for the important things - like unhooking bras and the like. >Whenever I spend time in my manual chair, I can really feel the strain in my >shoulder blades and fingers. If my dependence on a power chair puts off >reconstructive surgery or arthritis - deal me in. I really feel INVINCABLE in >my power chair. > >AZ Dave - (Good health is simply the slowest rate at which you can die.) > > > >In a message dated 1/16/2008 10:45:08 A.M. US Mountain Standard Time, [EMAIL >PROTECTED] writes: >Gaday Mates: > >I am wondering if my connection with the list has been severed? Two days have >passed now and not one posting has been received in my email. Or, everyone >has already tired of my diatribe and stopped writing. (grin). > >Seriously, I was just thinking about those of us who lead an entirely >different lifestyle than normal people and how our lifestyle effects those >around us. Once again, I am only expressing my own thoughts and ideas on >these matters. Please do not assume me to be dictatorial or presumptuous with >my statements. > >One of the more difficult issues I have encountered in establishing a >relationship with others is asking them to please allow me to complete >whatever task I may be attempting, without someone saying, "Here, let me do >that for you." This naturally comes about when they see you struggling with a >project or catch you involved in an efforts of some sort. > >I have learned as I know all of you have that it is necessary for us to try as >much as we can to complete the task we are attempting, regardless of how >awkward we may appear. Those who do offer to help have only our best interest >in mind, but understandably, they do not realize the amount of self-confidence >and pride we gain when we can actually accomplish even the simplest of jobs. > >Example. Opening a jar, buttoning a button, picking something up. At first >we may not succeed, but through repeated attempts, we learn ways in which to >overcome the daily obstacles that forever seem to be in our path. > >Well, enough venting for today. I'm please to actually have someone to >express these opinions to. > >Bill of Ill. ><http://www.users.qwest.net/~daveoc/index.html> > > > > > > >---------- >Start the year off right. ><http://body.aol.com/fitness/winter-exercise?NCID=aolcmp00300000002489>Easy >ways to stay in shape in the new year. >
