Hey Bobbie... I'm sorry to hear this is causing a problem. My wife and I travel often and I know how hard it can be finding a "Nice" place that meets our needs that isn't some chain hotel/motel (Days Inn, Marriott, Motel 6, etc.). It really IS those special and different places that can make even a short get-away one the more memorable ones.
We travel by plane, mostly, but I drive us 5-6 hrs into Mexico every October for just a weekend on a beach with "her" (ok... OUR) family. We found a reasonably accessible row of condos and the family rents 2. We split the cost per person and then split up so it's a couple (or few kids) per room (or sofa or outdoor patio)! We also do trips where I'll drive about 4 hrs to a family member's cabin in the mountains in northern AZ. I do all the driving because my van is a little too customized for her to drive. When we fly, though, it's almost all her!! Transfers, the chair disassembly/reassembly, repositioning me when I get back IN the chair, etc... it's a lot! She isn't my primary caregiver at home. She gets me into bed and takes care of any wound-related issues. So, for each trip she needs to RE-learn how to get me up in the mornings... not always an easy task. And I'd be the first to admit I'm quite picky!! Now... as for Pete, I have to ask (because of how you wrote it): * Is there any specific connection between a potential trip and Pete being reinstated as your primary HHA? Or... * Is it the possibility of spending $$$ on a trip now and a fear he may not be able to continue with this current pay down the road? I know traveling is stressful. The preparation, the cost, the getting there, managing the time off (if any), the packing/unpacking/repacking/unpacking... and on and on. But I also know --as does she-- it is SO MUCH worth it for the break in the day-to-day crap. All that stressful stuff just sort of melts away when it comes to memories and we think about our time relaxing together or having fun with family. We tell people about our trips... not our hassles getting to & from (mostly... except for the time my chair fell out of an airplane!). I sure do hope things will work out for you both. It sounds like you and Pete need a rest anyway. Thanks for trusting this Q-List Family for your venting. I'm sure you'll get plenty of sound advice and sympathies for your dilemma. Best wishes... & Happy Trails! --Tod ---- [email protected] wrote: > Hello my friends, > You are the ONLY one's who will understand why I am upset. I realize > how very lucky I am living in an apartment for the past 26 years and have a > van that I can drive since 1980 and most of all my sweet Pete who is not only > the love of my life, my best friend but also my full-time home health aid. > Which brings me to why I'm upset? > My youngest sister, DeeDee, lives in Saratoga, NY and she found a Bed & > Breakfast that is accessible and has a hospital bed in it and it's only 200 > miles away. But Pete thinks 200 miles is to far to drive plus he would have > to unload the van and then take care of me. I think 200 miles is not far at > all especially if we share the driving and he will need to take care of me > wherever we are. So, he has made up his mind, were not going. We have not > been > on any vacation since 1995! > Pete is also concerned that he will not get reinstated as my full-time > HHA, 42 hrs a week. Although I can understand his concern me as the client > can > request anybody and denie anybody. Bobbie
