Relationships are a two way streeet. For someone that's disabled, they have to work harder than their able-bodied cohorts and friends. There isn't a formula or book to read and understand it, it happens with the right person for the right reason. You can't force it. I'll tell you, it's damn tough not only for the disabled person but the able-bodied person that want to parttake in a relationship. A big, big key is communication, confidence and patience coupled with understanding. It's a great thing when it happens-then the work is really tough to maintain it and let it thrive. If it's meant to be, it's meant to be. You can't give up just like you didn't give up after incurring the disability. It's hard work but living with a disability is alot of work to compete in today's society, too. Best of Luck. This is a pretty good forum for newly injured as well as those injured long term Tom C6-7 39 years
________________________________ From: "[email protected]" <[email protected]> To: [email protected] Sent: Sun, January 24, 2010 11:23:32 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] relationships after injury? I dated my wife a few times in high school before my sci - then again 5 years after when another relationship ended for me. We dated about a year and then married - that was 1973 and we're still going. I have been around two or three women who showed an interest all of which could have turned into long term things. Attitude is the determining factor. Many women can overlook a broken body when the mind is strong and sound. AZDAVE “Mere longevity is a goodthing for those who watch Life from the side lines. For those who play the game, an hour may be a year, a single day's work an achievement foreternity.” Dave O'Connell In a message dated 1/24/2010 7:12:19 P.M. US Mountain Standard Time, [email protected] writes: Hi Nancy, > >That's a question that's impossible to answer. There are too many variables. >You have to be the right person, in the right place, at the right time, and >meet the right person. It also depends on desire. Some people want a >relationship so bad that they will settle for anyone. Others, are extremely >selective and will only settle on the perfect person. And others could care >less about having a relationship at all. > >In my opinion, quads to have a smaller group to pick from. So in that sense, >it may be more difficult. But that doesn't mean that many quads don't find a >perfect mate. On a side note, I'm curious -- are you asking for yourself or >your child? > >Dan > > > >At 07:06 PM 1/24/2010, Nancy Pritchard said something that elicited my >response: > > >Hi, >> >>I should introduce myself..mother of a 21 yr old 2 yrs post injury tomorrow. >>Just wondering how many have entered into serious relationships/marriage >>after their injury? >> >>Peace be with you........ >> >>New Dimension
