Ron,
What you said is just perfect, beautiful. I'm really proud of how you said
everything, I'm really impressed. I definitely will keep in mind what you said
when I do talk to her, thank you.
Bobbie
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On Jul 12, 2013, at 12:39 AM, RONALD L PRACHT <[email protected]> wrote:
> What you have to explain to her is her options. If she didnt have a caregiver
> what would her options be? Possibly a family member, nursing home or a short
> life due to no care. People need to understand that life comes to us in
> periods is the way I put it............your young 4 awhile, maybe raise kids,
> possibly married but we must learn to enjoy each period of life and not wish
> for the next one because it may be worse or we may not get a tomorrow at all.
> Living in the momment and finding something good in that momment is the only
> way to maintain happiness. A persons ability to be content regardless of
> circumstance is within themselves. If you compare yourself to others you will
> most likely be miserable most of the time.
>
> ron c7
>
> From: "[email protected]" <[email protected]>
> To: [email protected]; [email protected]
> Sent: Thursday, July 11, 2013 8:32 PM
> Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] How to advise a negative disabled neighbor?
>
> If the situation is that grave.... I would practice talking to a bare wall
> first. A baby chick must first crack the shell of the egg before they can
> breakout and see the world. Some people just feel comfortable within the
> shell of their own eggs. But then again, there are differences between
> neighbors and aids, in relation to taking care of someone's body vs someone's
> mind. Good Luck
> Best Wishes
>
> In a message dated 7/11/2013 8:23:05 P.M. Central Daylight Time,
> [email protected] writes:
> Hi All,
> I have a neighbor, Jill, who lives across the hall and is 57. She has
> a debilitating progressive illness and is in quite a bit of pain. Yesterday I
> went to visit her and met and aid that she has now who is a bundle of
> sunshine and genuinely kind and considerate. Jill has complained about every
> single aid she has ever had and now she is complaining to me about the aid I
> just met.
> I'm trying to tell her how to be positive to get the positive back to
> make a bad situation better, but she does not see this. Does anybody know of
> an example or a story I can tell her that will wake her up and see that what
> she has is great And not to take it for granted? Jill is constantly looking
> for the greener side of the grass and not seeing how greenIs right now. I
> tried to tell her that it could be so very much more worse.
> Jill is so very very close to be entering a nursing home for the rest of
> her life. This afternoon she had a bad bowel accident in her bathroom and is
> just devastated and degradingly embarrassed as we all know.
> I'm thinking that tomorrow would be a better time to talk to her. But I'm
> asking you all if you can tell me any kind of magic story for her?
> Bobbie
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