Great information, Aaron. Thanks! To whoever started this thread: congratulations on finding someone special. I wish you love and happiness together, whatever you decide to do.
Marriage, and all relationships, are difficult, but they can also be trans-formative, life-affirming and wonderful. It CAN succeed, with the right partner. Don. On Tuesday, October 22, 2013 4:09 PM, RONALD L PRACHT <[email protected]> wrote: more than likely the marriage wont survive the fifth year, live together for a few years then maybe get married, its going to be rough if your lover leaves and you have nothing else to support you ron From: Aaron Mann <[email protected]> To: Gmail <[email protected]> Cc: donald scott <[email protected]>; Don Smith <[email protected]>; "[email protected]" <[email protected]> Sent: Tuesday, October 22, 2013 5:54 PM Subject: Re: [QUAD-L] Considering marriage, concerened about loosing disability While working as a disability counselor, I always gave the following information: http://www.disabilitysecrets.com/page6-37.html But, in reality, we have different baseline financial needs. In typical situations marriage occurs between an able body and a person with a disability. The thought is that the overall stability of the home improves and there will be less need for SSI/SSDI. If it is a marriage between two people with disabilities, then this is where the system is flawed. Go the route of getting married in God's eyes only. Do the wedding, reception, and honeymoon, but find a pastor or facilitator who will perform the ceremony without requiring a marriage certificate. Warning: When tax time comes and you both file as single from the same address, it will raise flags. They could audit your benefits and include both incomes. PS: tax benefits of filing as married could offset some/all benefits losses. (if you're a glutton for punishment, try reading the confusing rules) https://secure.ssa.gov/poms.nsf/lnx/0501320400 On a different note, get a part-time job earning less than $1,040/mo and you still get your SSI/SSDI. This will provide two things, a greater sense of self-worth and additional income. (There are many home-based phone or computer jobs available, but getting out of the house is always better!) Aaron Mann On Tue, Oct 22, 2013 at 3:43 PM, Gmail <[email protected]> wrote: Don is right. Bobbie >Smile Everyday >On Oct 22, 2013, at 2:47 PM, donald scott <[email protected]> wrote: >Don't get married. Just live together and have a commitment ceremony with >family >>On , donald scott <[email protected]> wrote: >> >>Don't get married. Just live together and have a commitment ceremony with >>family. >>On Tuesday, October 22, 2013 10:43 AM, Don Smith <[email protected]> wrote: >> >>It depends on if it is ssdi payed on the 3rd of the month or ssi which is >>paid on the 1st. when I was married I never lost my ssdi but did lose my >>small ssi medi cal and ihss once my wife started working. Things may have >>changed though, it's best you check with your local social security office to >>be sure. Don >> >> >> >> >>From: Shelly Kerchner <[email protected]> >>To: "[email protected]" <[email protected]> >>Sent: Tuesday, October 22, 2013 9:22 AM >>Subject: [QUAD-L] Considering marriage, concerened about loosing disability >> >>Hi to all! >> >>Will I loose my disability if I get married? >> >>Thanks !! >> >> >>Shelly >>C6-c7 incomplete >>6 years post injury >> >>Sent from Yahoo! Mail for iPad
