Sometimes when I find myself frustrated quite often it's about the same things (something my aides do or don't do, something not quite right with my accessibility equipment, friction between myself and family…). On a lot of these things it frustrates me but I just let it ride, and don't do anything about it. Sometimes maybe I just need to say something and the situation may change for the better and sometimes not. Most of my problems are with my aides. There are actually pretty good but I find myself just putting up with a small little things that I should try to have them correct. I have been with the same agency for 20 years and only this one since my accident, so I have nothing to compare it to. But I remember during rehab they would discuss how hard it is to sometimes find a good agency. Not that the agencies are necessarily terrible but that it can be hard for them to find good and dependable help. Personally, I consider myself fairly lucky. Since the kids left the house it's just me and my wife and we do pretty well, but many times she feels that the aides could do more for me and also a better job regarding the homemaking that is offered. During rehab they stressed that you're your best advocate (I know we've all heard that before :-). We should try to teach our aides the way we would like to have things done, while also listening to their suggestions should they have some. That we need to get our point across without getting too difficult or bitchy that they can no longer get along with us, to the point where they ask their agency to take us self their client list. Sometimes I get too close to my aides and consider them friends, and that can complicate things a little. I need to keep in mind that they don't work for me but for their agency, and their agency works for me. Sometimes I feel they take my normally good nature for granted, and this wears on me. But I just need to take care of business and not worry so much about their feelings but those of myself and myself towards my wife and hers towards me. It can be complicated, no doubt.
On Tue, Nov 6, 2018 at 7:03 PM Dana Wray <[email protected]> wrote: > I know how you feel and I agree. Dana > > On Mon, Nov 5, 2018 at 4:49 PM Bobbie Humphreys < > [email protected]> wrote: > >> I find it very hard to be patient ALL-THE-TIME. >> Bobbie >> >> "Be the change you want to see in the world". Gandhi >> >>
