Kevin : No problem in acknowledging that the problem you describe in paragraph #1 is real. God only knows that there are all kinds of malfunctions possible in the human psyche. The question would be why you use the word "homophobia" in a clinical sense in that case. Precisely because the term is so widely abused would seem to me to be more than enough reason to find some other designation. What does the DSM call this problem ? But in terms of teenage fantasies, what you describe is really bizarre. I suspect my own experience is typical of well in excess of 90 % of males, near-obsession with young women ( and their secondary sexual characteristics ) all waking hours. To judge from conversations of those years, this was as close to a universal and anything gets. My strategy is to deny legitimacy to all conceivable homosexual-sponsored anything. This includes their preferred terminology usages. --------------------------------- About telling teens that "homosexual fantasies are a normal part of psychosexual development," this astounds me. It may be statistically significant in the population, that is, represent a small percentage, in the 1 or 2 % range as a guess, but it hardly is "normal." What else may be statistically significant are such things as incest fantasies, pedophile fantasies, murder fantasies, and bestiality fantasies, but in what sense can any such things be considered normal --in the sense of OK if acted out ? This is especially important these days with homosexualist infiltration of the psychological professions, especially the APA ( psychiatrists ) and APA ( psychologists ). Nowadays we are supposed to believe that all kinds of things are "normal" which, au contraire, simply are assertions designed to "normalize" homosexuality in the public mind, including the minds of journalists and other sources of public authority. We shall see where this goes, of course. Glad you called the first affliction to my attention. Will need to do some digging into that subject when there is an opportunity. I do plan to re-write my book about homosexuality, and greatly expand it. I want to be damned sure to get everything right. That is one kind of phenomenon I need to find out about. Already know about a good number of "other" phenomena and had thought that there wasn't even more, how could there be ? Women who whip and torture each other as part of "sex play," men who use shoes and other fetishes in conjunction with homosexual sex acts, and a whole range of homosexual behaviors associated with urine and excrement, and on and on. For a real eye-opener about just how depraved this can get, Rechy's now "classic" Sexual Outlaw is highly recommended ( not the right word, but if you want to know this stuff... ) Given what is actually involved in homosexual conduct, including a trajectory of worse and worse ( more and more warped ) behaviors with increasing commitment to this so-called "lifestyle," the last thing I'd ever do is tell someone this is normal. While saying so may be benign, it could also give someone "permission" to take part is entry behavior, homosexual experimentation, and, through that, entry per se into the homosexual subculture. With this now supposedly reasonable as an alternative, with almost no-one hip to where things can go, this can be disaster for the individual. O R Adams' book covers this sort of thing to really good effect. Billy -------------------------------------------------------------- In a message dated 11/26/2011 7:12:57 P.M. Pacific Standard Time, [email protected] writes:
In response to Billy's question. I've treated several people over the years who are authentic homophobes. They are having homosexual fantasies or are engaging in homosexual behaviors but are denying or fearing the ideation and acting in an opposite manner in order to act as if the opposite is true. This is classic homophobia. In some cases it gets extreme and causes psychosis or violent heterosexual behavior. In other words, I'm not gay - look at how powerful a hetersexual I can be. This is a dangerous and awful condition - obviously. I tell teenagers that homosexual fantasies are a normal part of psychosexual development. The mind does what it does, especially during adolescence when the circuiterey is going haywire and a normal narcissism has reemerged. The relief is usually immediate. What the homosexual advicacy lobby has done is insidious. They lump all those that disagree with their conclusions regarding parity, normalcy, etc. as gay fearers, homophobics. This is a way to paint with a broad brush in order to delegitimize the legitimate arguments. I believe it is so destructive to the national conversation. These people know what they are doing. Kevin -- Centroids: The Center of the Radical Centrist Community <[email protected]> Google Group: http://groups.google.com/group/RadicalCentrism Radical Centrism website and blog: http://RadicalCentrism.org
