EXCELLENT article - so very true

 

NORMAN Berdichevsky

 

From: [email protected]
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Sent: Tuesday, January 15, 2013 1:24 PM
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Subject: RE: [RC] There's More to Life Than Being Happy - Emily Esfahani
Smith - The Atlantic

 

I have been a Viktor Frankl fan for decades.  Good article and Manifesto.

 

Chris 

 

 

 

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Sent: Monday, January 14, 2013 4:27 PM
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Subject: [RC] There's More to Life Than Being Happy - Emily Esfahani Smith -
The Atlantic

 

I'm thinking of titling my next political manifesto "Life, Liberty & The
Pursuit of Significance"

 

http://www.theatlantic.com/health/archive/2013/01/theres-more-to-life-than-b
eing-happy/266805/

 


There's More to Life Than Being Happy


"It is the very pursuit of happiness that thwarts happiness."

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Kacper Pempel/Reuters

In September 1942, Viktor Frankl, a prominent Jewish psychiatrist and
neurologist in Vienna, was arrested and transported to a Nazi concentration
camp with his wife and parents. Three years later, when his camp was
liberated, most of his family, including his pregnant wife, had perished --
but he, prisoner number 119104, had lived. In his bestselling 1946 book,
<http://www.amazon.com/Mans-Search-Meaning-Viktor-Frankl/dp/080701429X>
Man's Search for Meaning, which he wrote in nine days about his experiences
in the camps, Frankl concluded that the difference between those who had
lived and those who had died came down to one thing: Meaning, an insight he
came to early in life. When he was a
<http://books.google.com/books/about/Viktor_Frankl.html?id=3AXDwL6HwRAC>
high school student, one of his science teachers declared to the class,
"Life is nothing more than a combustion process, a process of oxidation."
Frankl jumped out of his chair and responded, "Sir, if this is so, then what
can be the meaning of life?" 

As he saw in the camps, those who found meaning even in the most horrendous
circumstances were far more resilient to suffering than those who did not.
"Everything can be taken from a man but one thing," Frankl wrote in Man's
Search for Meaning, "the last of the human freedoms -- to choose one's
attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one's own way." 

Frankl worked as a therapist in the camps, and in his book, he gives the
example of two suicidal inmates he encountered there. Like many others in
the camps, these two men were hopeless and thought that there was nothing
more to expect from life, nothing to live for. "In both cases," Frankl
writes, "it was a question of getting them to realize that life was still
expecting something from them; something in the future was expected of
them." For one man, it was his young child, who was then living in a foreign
country. For the other, a scientist, it was a series of books that he needed
to finish. Frankl writes: 

This uniqueness and singleness which distinguishes each individual and gives
a meaning to his existence has a bearing on creative work as much as it does
on human love. When the impossibility of replacing a person is realized, it
allows the responsibility which a man has for his existence and its
continuance to appear in all its magnitude. A man who becomes conscious of
the responsibility he bears toward a human being who affectionately waits
for him, or to an unfinished work, will never be able to throw away his
life. He knows the "why" for his existence, and will be able to bear almost
any "how."

 RTR6BQFinset.jpg
<http://cdn.theatlantic.com/static/mt/assets/food/RTR6BQFinset.jpg> Viktor
Frankl [Herwig Prammer/Reuters]

In 1991, the Library of Congress and Book-of-the-Month Club listed Man's
Search for Meaning as
<http://www.nytimes.com/1991/11/20/books/book-notes-059091.html> one of the
10 most influential books in the United States. It has sold millions of
copies worldwide. Now, over twenty years later, the book's ethos -- its
emphasis on meaning, the value of suffering, and responsibility to something
greater than the self -- seems to be at odds with our culture, which is more
interested in the pursuit of individual happiness than in the search for
meaning. "To the European," Frankl wrote, "it is a characteristic of the
American culture that, again and again, one is commanded and ordered to 'be
happy.' But happiness cannot be pursued; it must ensue. One must have a
reason to 'be happy.'" 

 
<http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/05/13/americans-happy-emotional-health_n
_1511071.html> According to Gallup , the happiness levels of Americans are
at a four-year high -- as is, it seems, the number of best-selling books
with the word "happiness" in their titles. At this writing,
<http://www.gallup.com/poll/106915/gallup-daily-us-mood.aspx> Gallup also
reports that nearly 60 percent all Americans today feel happy without a lot
of stress or worry. On the other hand, according to the
<http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1758-0854.2010.01035.x/abstrac
t> Center for Disease Control, about 4 out of 10 Americans have not
discovered a satisfying life purpose. Forty percent either do not think
their lives have a clear sense of purpose or are neutral about whether their
lives have purpose. Nearly a quarter of Americans feel neutral or do not
have a strong sense of what makes their lives meaningful. Research has shown
that having purpose and meaning in life increases overall well-being and
life satisfaction, improves mental and physical health, enhances resiliency,
enhances self-esteem, and decreases the chances of depression. On top of
that, the single-minded pursuit of happiness is ironically leaving people
less happy, according to
<http://www.huffingtonpost.com/todd-kashdan/whats-wrong-with-happines_b_7405
18.html> recent research. "It is the very pursuit of happiness," Frankl
knew, "that thwarts happiness." 

***

This is why some researchers are cautioning against the pursuit of mere
happiness. In a
<http://faculty-gsb.stanford.edu/aaker/pages/documents/SomeKeyDifferencesHap
pyLifeMeaningfulLife_2012.pdf> new study, which will be published this year
in a forthcoming issue of the
<http://www.tandfonline.com/toc/rpos20/current> Journal of Positive
Psychology, psychological scientists asked nearly 400 Americans aged 18 to
78 whether they thought their lives were meaningful and/or happy. Examining
their self-reported attitudes toward meaning, happiness, and many other
variables -- like stress levels, spending patterns, and having children --
over a month-long period, the researchers found that a meaningful life and
happy life overlap in certain ways, but are ultimately very different.
Leading a happy life, the psychologists found, is associated with being a
"taker" while leading a meaningful life corresponds with being a "giver." 

"Happiness without meaning characterizes a relatively shallow, self-absorbed
or even selfish life, in which things go well, needs and desire are easily
satisfied, and difficult or taxing entanglements are avoided," the authors
write. 

How do the happy life and the meaningful life differ? Happiness, they found,
is about feeling good. Specifically, the researchers found that people who
are happy tend to think that life is easy, they are in good physical health,
and they are able to buy the things that they need and want. While not
having enough money decreases how happy and meaningful you consider your
life to be, it has a much greater impact on happiness. The happy life is
also defined by a lack of stress or worry. 

Nearly a quarter of Americans do not have a strong sense of what makes their
lives meaningful.

Most importantly from a social perspective, the pursuit of happiness is
associated with selfish behavior -- being, as mentioned, a "taker" rather
than a "giver." The psychologists give an evolutionary explanation for this:
happiness is about drive reduction. If you have a need or a desire -- like
hunger -- you satisfy it, and that makes you happy. People become happy, in
other words, when they get what they want. Humans, then, are not the only
ones who can feel happy. Animals have needs and drives, too, and when those
drives are satisfied, animals also feel happy, the researchers point out. 

"Happy people get a lot of joy from receiving benefits from others while
people leading meaningful lives get a lot of joy from giving to others,"
explained Kathleen Vohs, one of the authors of the study, in a recent
presentation at the University of Pennsylvania. In other words, meaning
transcends the self while happiness is all about giving the self what it
wants. People who have high meaning in their lives are more likely to help
others in need. "If anything, pure happiness is linked to not helping others
in need," the researchers write. 

What sets human beings apart from animals is not the pursuit of happiness,
which occurs all across the natural world, but the pursuit of meaning, which
is unique to humans, according to Roy Baumeister, the lead researcher of the
study and author, with John Tierney, of the recent book
<http://www.amazon.com/dp/0143122231> Willpower: Rediscovering the Greatest
Human Strength. Baumeister, a social psychologists at Florida State
University,  <http://www.fsu.edu/faculty/fachonors.html#isi> was named an
ISI highly cited scientific researcher in 2003. 

The study participants reported deriving meaning from giving a part of
themselves away to others and making a sacrifice on behalf of the overall
group. In the words of Martin E. P. Seligman, one of the leading
psychological scientists alive today, in the meaningful life "you use your
highest strengths and talents to belong to and serve something you believe
is larger than the self." For instance, having more meaning in one's life
was associated with doing activities like buying presents for others, taking
care of kids, and arguing. People whose lives have high levels of meaning
often actively seek meaning out even when they know it will come at the
expense of happiness. Because they have invested themselves in something
bigger than themselves, they also worry more and have higher levels of
stress and anxiety in their lives than happy people. Having children, for
example, is associated with the meaningful life and requires self-sacrifice,
but it has been famously associated with low happiness among parents,
including the ones in this study. In fact, according to Harvard psychologist
Daniel Gilbert, research shows that
<http://articles.cnn.com/2011-05-23/living/do.not.want.children_1_happiness-
cultural-beliefs-children?_s=PM:LIVING> parents are less happy interacting
with their children than they are exercising, eating, and watching
television. 

"Partly what we do as human beings is to take care of others and contribute
to others. This makes life meaningful but it does not necessarily make us
happy," Baumeister told me in an interview. 

Meaning is not only about transcending the self, but also about transcending
the present moment -- which is perhaps the most important finding of the
study, according to the researchers. While happiness is an emotion felt in
the here and now, it ultimately fades away, just as all emotions do;
positive affect and feelings of pleasure are fleeting. The amount of time
people report feeling good or bad correlates with happiness but not at all
with meaning. 

Meaning, on the other hand, is enduring. It connects the past to the present
to the future. "Thinking beyond the present moment, into the past or future,
was a sign of the relatively meaningful but unhappy life," the researchers
write. "Happiness is not generally found in contemplating the past or
future." That is, people who thought more about the present were happier,
but people who spent more time thinking about the future or about past
struggles and sufferings felt more meaning in their lives, though they were
less happy. 

Having negative events happen to you, the study found, decreases your
happiness but increases the amount of meaning you have in life. Another
study from 2011 confirmed this, finding that people who have meaning in
their lives, in the form of a clearly defined purpose, rate their
satisfaction with life higher even when they were feeling bad than those who
did not have a clearly defined purpose. "If there is meaning in life at
all," Frankl wrote, "then there must be meaning in suffering." 

***

Which brings us back to Frankl's life and, specifically, a decisive
experience he had before he was sent to the concentration camps. It was an
incident that emphasizes the difference between the pursuit of meaning and
the pursuit of happiness in life. 

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<http://cdn.theatlantic.com/static/mt/assets/food/RTR29GZDinset.jpg> Peter
Andrews/Reuters

In his early adulthood, before he and his family were taken away to the
camps, Frankl had established himself as one of the leading psychiatrists in
Vienna and the world. As a 16-year-old boy, for example, he struck up a
correspondence with Sigmund Freud and one day sent Freud a two-page paper he
had written. Freud, impressed by Frankl's talent, sent the paper to the
International Journal of Psychoanalysis for publication. "I hope you don't
object," Freud wrote the teenager. 

While he was in medical school, Frankl distinguished himself even further.
Not only did he
<http://books.google.com/books?id=3AXDwL6HwRAC&pg=PA2&lpg=PA2&dq=viktor+fran
kl+suicide+prevention+center&source=bl&ots=SUcBDaT87f&sig=2RlvqNiKZMwxTw-FRb
S1n6W_Vmo&hl=en&sa=X&ei=drbhUIfvHoXD0QGv8IGYCg&ved=0CDIQ6AEwAA#v=onepage&q=v
iktor%20frankl%20suicide%20prevention%20center&f=false> establish
suicide-prevention centers for teenagers -- a precursor to his work in the
camps -- but he was also developing his signature contribution to the field
of clinical psychology: logotherapy, which is meant to help people overcome
depression and achieve well-being by finding their unique meaning in life.
By 1941, his theories had received international attention and he was
working as the chief of neurology at Vienna's Rothschild Hospital, where he
risked his life and career by making false diagnoses of mentally ill
patients so that they would not, per Nazi orders, be euthanized. 

That was the same year when he had a decision to make, a decision that would
change his life. With his career on the rise and the threat of the Nazis
looming over him, Frankl had applied for a visa to America, which he was
granted in 1941. By then, the Nazis had already started rounding up the Jews
and taking them away to concentration camps, focusing on the elderly first.
Frankl knew that it would only be time before the Nazis came to take his
parents away. He also knew that once they did, he had a responsibility to be
there with his parents to help them through the trauma of adjusting to camp
life. On the other hand, as a newly married man with his visa in hand, he
was tempted to leave for America and flee to safety, where he could
distinguish himself even further in his field. 

As Anna S. Redsand
<http://books.google.com/books/about/Viktor_Frankl.html?id=3AXDwL6HwRAC>
recounts in her biography of Frankl, he was at a loss for what to do, so he
set out for St. Stephan's Cathedral in Vienna to clear his head. Listening
to the organ music, he repeatedly asked himself, "Should I leave my parents
behind?... Should I say goodbye and leave them to their fate?" Where did his
responsibility lie? He was looking for a "hint from heaven." 

When he returned home, he found it. A piece of marble was lying on the
table. His father explained that it was from the rubble of one of the nearby
synagogues that the Nazis had destroyed. The marble contained the fragment
of one of the Ten Commandments -- the one about honoring your father and
your mother. With that, Frankl decided to stay in Vienna and forgo whatever
opportunities for safety and career advancement awaited him in the United
States. He decided to put aside his individual pursuits to serve his family
and, later, other inmates in the camps. 

The wisdom that Frankl derived from his experiences there, in the middle of
unimaginable human suffering, is just as relevant now as it was then: "Being
human always points, and is directed, to something or someone, other than
oneself -- be it a meaning to fulfill or another human being to encounter.
The more one forgets himself -- by giving himself to a cause to serve or
another person to love -- the more human he is." 

Baumeister and his colleagues would agree that the pursuit of meaning is
what makes human beings uniquely human. By putting aside our selfish
interests to serve someone or something larger than ourselves -- by devoting
our lives to "giving" rather than "taking" -- we are not only expressing our
fundamental humanity, but are also acknowledging that that there is more to
the good life than the pursuit of simple happiness. 

 

 

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