Sounds like a fine young man. Keith ----- Original Message ----- From: "45.5N122.7W" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> Sent: Monday, January 06, 2003 12:39 PM Subject: [RR] Bridgeing the great transition-
> > Honesty chat- <G> > > *Current events have made me aware that a "Great Transition" > is underway in my family, as my son turned 18. > > Us solid types<G> who have put much into our kids childhoods > often miss the mark with this phase of life, where the bird > begins to learn to fly on his own... > > *I had some trouble with my Dad over issues when I was 18 and > I want to do better- *For Josh and for my own peace of mind. > > I'm several things- ..as a Dad > > 1.I'm on the edge of my seat- > > I don't know the future or the gameplan Josh is about to choose for > himself. *I'm pledged to love him and in measured amounts support > anything he chooses. He may choose "Plan A" and enroll in College > next year.. He may do something else.. > > > 2.I'm a "compassionate conservitive judge" > > Many times, the shortcommings we see brings rebuke, that earlier > in his life was warrented. At this point of transition, his age > requires adult *understanding and grace in these matters. Josh > has done well, and earned a certian amount of respect with trust. > > That said.. sometimes his decisions are flakey<G> > > 3.I'm a Liberal and tolerant source of encouragement > > *Personaly, for me- I have chosen not to sweat the details... > > At 18, his music, dress and culture *should be "different" and > is- from mine. However, the goal is to continue open communication > and "moments" of positive contact built on mutual respect. > > 4.I'm an "Investment banker" in sketchy enterprise<G> > > Every young bird will learn to fly. > My hope is that Josh learns to fly solo.. > > He needs to know how the world works, and how money greases > the skids to aquire wealth. He should learn the value of money > and how it relates to effort, *But he should also learn to be > generious while learning thrift. > > This too is also a spiritual "Ministry" for me. > I do give regularily and sacrificialy!<G> (Bank of Dad) > > > 5.I'm an "Oracle of reason" > > Sometimes the best thing we can do is to just talk about > nothing in general, and let the convesation drift to other > topics.. Often, this leads me to draw sketches on scrap > paper to define engines of prosperity, flow charts of power > and ways to watch for opportunity.. > > Sometimes insight comes from a 3/4 angle of a nagging problem. > > Recently we can accross a format called "active listening" where > you signal back what you "heard" following a conversational point. > > Brutal as this is.. *The thought that we were trying something > off a paper to build fair communication skills, fired new resolve > in Josh to play fair<G> ...mayby seeing where the "game" came > from allowed him to better participate<G> > > Here's the scoresheet on my son... > > Josh Wheeler 18 > Senior Ft.Vancouver HS GPA 3.1 > president of "model United Nations" > Summer lifeguard Camp Meriwether > > GMA#3911 > Eagle Scout > Potential Tuition waver to LC College > Portland,or > > '87 Honda Civic > Girlfriend- "Jennifer" > enjoys alturnitive rock and hip-hop > > 1 Total wreck of his car-zero injury > 1 speeding ticket > No job.. > > *Stay tuned- > > -=A=- > > > ===== > *High MORALE is the Index of effective Leadership. > --------------********+********-------------------- > Morale raises belief of the Leader in the follower, > of the follower in the Leader, of each in themself, > and both in the .....cause! > > __________________________________________________ > Do you Yahoo!? > Yahoo! Mail Plus - Powerful. Affordable. Sign up now. > http://mailplus.yahoo.com > _______ > > "Do to others as you would have them do to you." > -- Luke 6:31 (NIV) > > List host: http://eBible.org/mpj/ List info: http://RangerNet.org/faq.htm > > To unsubscribe, send "unsubscribe rangernet" to [EMAIL PROTECTED] > or visit http://rangernet.org/subscribe.htm _______ "Do to others as you would have them do to you." -- Luke 6:31 (NIV) List host: http://eBible.org/mpj/ List info: http://RangerNet.org/faq.htm To unsubscribe, send "unsubscribe rangernet" to [EMAIL PROTECTED] or visit http://rangernet.org/subscribe.htm
