*Howdy- 1. Decide what is important. 2.Remember the "Big Picture" 3. Speak from the *Heart- Keeping the main thing- the main thing also works well with the Teen-age- Parent relationship. I've been attendeing a relationship building seminar at Church with the parents of youth age teens. We had the youth pastor come a speek and he had some insightfull things to share. Pastor Al drew a line down the whiteboard and a stickman on each side of the "wall" *This "wall" is something we should understand, as it represents the moment when a youth gains his independence or enters our adult world. In America we sometimes think it to be High School graduation, but we also know it shifts from 14 on into the 20's or later<G> Teens have trouble thinking about the future or the past! For them, the future is lunch and the past is the twinky they had for break<G> Ask them to tell you what they will be doing in 10 years and you enter into a conversation they (mayby-mayby not) have never thought about.<G> ...and while they don't allways know- YOU know they will pass this way but once! What we do as 'adults, is try to share logic, and constantly tell them to make their choices count.... They react in a variety of ways that echo's their lack of perspective<G> ...and so many times, we raise the voice or the *passion.. or wave the "Big Stick".... Pastor Al asked us- *Parents to reflect on "what is Important" and let the trivia pass. In the future waht I susspect you want is for your child to make the right choices rather than *agree with you all the time<G> He advised us to "Think BIG PICTURE" and find joy in watching the passing of time. -=A=- _______ To unsubscribe, send "unsubscribe rangernet" to [EMAIL PROTECTED] or visit http://rangernet.org/subscribe.htm and fill out the form. "Eat the hay & spit out the sticks! - A#1's mule" RTKB&G4JC! http://rangernet.org Autoresponder: [EMAIL PROTECTED]
