Compliments are certainly not outside the expectations for this forum; we give and get them in one way or another all the time on the list. I like your style, great idea, awesome cap, cute dog, stylin' outfit, whatever. In fact, there’s a whole (predominantly women’s) movement out there that thrives on appreciation of fashion and function for biking - it’s known as bicycle chic, in fact, I relate to that over the bike packing, century-conquering sets. And while I do have a keen mind, some mad talent in the kitchen, and a witty sense of humor, the day no one thinks I’m cute is going to be a sad day for me indeed.
We’re not at work; we’re among friends in an affinity group. We can pay each other compliments. Let’s assume the best about one another; no one on this forum means anyone else any harm. Saying someone looks cute or fit or good is just fine. If you comment that my a$$ looks good in those shorts -I’d agree with you- but we’d have an issue, you and me, because that’s sexual. Now my dog, on the other hand…well, when he found out about this he really wanted to give Doug a chance to email HIM an apology. My American Eskimo dog does not identify as “cute.” And he is outraged that anyone would label him so. I respect your right not to ever receive a compliment. Even if your hair is really GQ that day, I promise I shall refrain. But let’s not shame well-meaning folks from paying harmless compliments. The culture in which we find ourselves is ridiculously offend-able and reactive and thin-skinned and ridiculous. Let’s refuse to participate. > On Feb 14, 2018, at 10:00 AM, Sean Kline <seankl...@alumni.lse.ac.uk> wrote: > > I'm glad to hear that. Your voice is your own. > > I wasn't seeking to speak for you at all, but flagging a comment that felt > outside my expectations of this forum. If others feels commenting on member's > appearance in that way is cool and 'just kidding' around, then fine. I don't > in the same way I don't expect a comment like that at work. > > On Wed, Feb 14, 2018 at 9:07 AM, Bicycle Belle Ding Ding! > <jonasandle...@gmail.com <mailto:jonasandle...@gmail.com>> wrote: > Sean, I fail to see anything sexual in Doug's comment. I see a compliment. > Please don't speak for me. > > -- > You received this message because you are subscribed to a topic in the Google > Groups "RBW Owners Bunch" group. > To unsubscribe from this topic, visit > https://groups.google.com/d/topic/rbw-owners-bunch/h1X0Ibwy_uM/unsubscribe > <https://groups.google.com/d/topic/rbw-owners-bunch/h1X0Ibwy_uM/unsubscribe>. > To unsubscribe from this group and all its topics, send an email to > rbw-owners-bunch+unsubscr...@googlegroups.com > <mailto:rbw-owners-bunch%2bunsubscr...@googlegroups.com>. > To post to this group, send email to rbw-owners-bunch@googlegroups.com > <mailto:rbw-owners-bunch@googlegroups.com>. > Visit this group at https://groups.google.com/group/rbw-owners-bunch > <https://groups.google.com/group/rbw-owners-bunch>. > For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/d/optout > <https://groups.google.com/d/optout>. > > > -- > You received this message because you are subscribed to a topic in the Google > Groups "RBW Owners Bunch" group. > To unsubscribe from this topic, visit > https://groups.google.com/d/topic/rbw-owners-bunch/h1X0Ibwy_uM/unsubscribe > <https://groups.google.com/d/topic/rbw-owners-bunch/h1X0Ibwy_uM/unsubscribe>. > To unsubscribe from this group and all its topics, send an email to > rbw-owners-bunch+unsubscr...@googlegroups.com > <mailto:rbw-owners-bunch+unsubscr...@googlegroups.com>. > To post to this group, send email to rbw-owners-bunch@googlegroups.com > <mailto:rbw-owners-bunch@googlegroups.com>. > Visit this group at https://groups.google.com/group/rbw-owners-bunch > <https://groups.google.com/group/rbw-owners-bunch>. > For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/d/optout > <https://groups.google.com/d/optout>. -- You received this message because you are subscribed to the Google Groups "RBW Owners Bunch" group. To unsubscribe from this group and stop receiving emails from it, send an email to rbw-owners-bunch+unsubscr...@googlegroups.com. To post to this group, send email to rbw-owners-bunch@googlegroups.com. Visit this group at https://groups.google.com/group/rbw-owners-bunch. For more options, visit https://groups.google.com/d/optout.
