Thanks Rick for your enlightenment about "honor". That really seems to help give a lighter heart. I really liked Scotts advice too... Thanks Scott. Kathy, is this something you are willing to do? It's so difficult to deal with misunderstandings... we would just rather let them blow off. We get as much out of something as we put into it though. I love you Dear one... Father, please make a way where there seems to be no other way. We commit this relationship to you Lord, and trust you to establish their thoughts and bring your plans to pass... and all other parental relationships mentioned here. I take back for all of us the ground that has been taken. I claim healing and restoration in our parental relationships and all relationships. Scotts advice was good... and Arts too... Lord, help us to allow these words to make progress in our lives. May we choose to take heed.... Lets hear the testimonies in the days to come... accountability and relationship, isn't that what its all about? Nancy :) >From: "Rick Carr" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> >To: [EMAIL PROTECTED] >Subject: Re: Honoring my Mother >Date: Wed, 16 May 2001 10:18:20 -0500 (CDT) > >Hi, Shari, >You've received some good counsel, imo, from different ones already. Don't >really have more advice to offer. Just wanted to affirm a couple of >things. > >First, your hurt is certainly understandable. My Mom is typically a very >blunt person. When we joined a cell church in Ft. Worth years ago, she was >not at all supportive. She said, after visiting one Sunday, she cried all >the way back to Shreveport because I'd left everything I'd ever believed >in. I told her I hadn't left it, I was just following it to it's logical & >spiritual conclusion. She didn't see it. But that's just her, and that's >okay. > >With others, I would encourage you to be bold. Stand up for what you >believe, not rudely, just firmly. If you're mother is being abusive & >critical in the presence of, or directly toward your children, you should >probably limit her contact if she can not control her tongue herself. > >Here's what I'd like to add. In Hebrew, the word of honor has to do with >weighing, as on a balance scale. It carries the idea of giving proper >weight to. As a young child, this has to include obedience as we are >learning from our parents and under their authority. However, as adults, >we are no longer under their authority. They are older, more experienced >and, usually, more mature. Therefore, we should still value, or give >weight to, what they say. But having put it on the scale and weighed it, >we are still responsible for our own decisions and choices. > >If you listen to what your parents say (the valid message that is in their >words, and not necessarily the harsh words with which they deliver that >message), and give it value in your decision making process, then you have >honored your parents. That obligation is fulfilled. You don't need to >feel guilty or ashamed for not doing what they say, or for telling them >you've considered what they said, and made your own choices, and they've >said enough already and need to let it drop. > >Rick C. >Col.2:6 >Newcastle, OK >www.rickcarrphotography.com > > _________________________________________________________________ Get your FREE download of MSN Explorer at http://explorer.msn.com
