Del, this was awesome, terrific; thanks for sharing with us. Sandy ----- Original Message ----- From: Sugarsyl <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> To: <[email protected]> Sent: Wednesday, June 06, 2007 9:57 AM Subject: [RecipesAndMore] Re: The Awakening
> > This was so awsome Delma!! > Thanks > Syl > > "God, grant me the serenity to accept the people I cannot change > the courage to change the person I can > and the wisdom to know I am that person." > ~Sylvia > > ----- Original Message ----- > From: "delma bliss" <[EMAIL PROTECTED]> > To: <[email protected]> > Sent: Wednesday, June 06, 2007 6:31 AM > Subject: [RecipesAndMore] The Awakening > > > > > > > > The Awakening > > A time comes in your life when you finally get it... > > When in the midst of all your fears and insanity you > > stop dead in your tracks and somewhere, the voice > > inside your head cries out - ENOUGH! > > Enough fighting and crying, or struggling to hold on. And, like a child > > quieting down after a blind tantrum, your sobs begin to subside, you > > shudder > > once > > or twice, you blink back your tears and through a mantle of wet lashes, > > you > > begin to look at the world through new eyes. > > This is your awakening... > > You realize that it's time to stop hoping and waiting for something to > > change, or for happiness, safety and security to come galloping over the > > next horizon. > > You come to terms with the fact that he is not Prince Charming and you are > > not Cinderella and that in the real world, there aren't always fairy tale > > endings > > (or beginnings for that matter) and that any guarantee of "happily ever > > after" must begin with you and in the process, a sense of serenity is born > > of acceptance. > > You awaken to the fact that you are not perfect and that not everyone will > > always love, appreciate or approve of who or what you are ... and that's > > OK. > > (They are entitled to their own views and opinions.) And you learn the > > importance of loving and championing yourself and in the process, a sense > > of > > new > > found confidence is born of self-approval. > > You stop complaining and blaming other people for the things they did to > > you > > (or didn't do for you) and you learn that the only thing you can really > > count > > on is the unexpected. You learn that people don't always say what they > > mean > > or mean what they say and that not everyone will always be there for you > > and > > that it's not always about you. So, you learn to stand on your own and to > > take care of yourself and in the process, a sense of safety & security is > > born > > of self-reliance. > > You stop judging and pointing fingers and you begin to accept people as > > they > > are and to overlook their shortcomings and human frailties and in the > > process, > > a sense of peace & contentment is born of forgiveness. > > You realize that much of the way you view yourself and the world around > > you, > > is a result of all the messages and opinions that have been ingrained into > > your psyche. You begin to sift through all the junk you've been fed about > > how you should behave, how you should look and how much you should weigh, > > what > > you should wear and where you should shop and what you should drive, how > > and > > where you should live and what you should do for a living, who you should > > marry and what you should expect of a marriage, the importance of having > > and > > raising children or what you owe your parents. You learn to open up to new > > worlds and different points of view. You begin reassessing and redefining > > who you are and what you really stand for. > > You learn the difference between wanting and needing and you begin to > > discard the doctrines and values you've outgrown, or should never have > > bought into > > to begin with and in the process, you learn to go with your instincts. > > You learn that it is truly in giving that we receive and that there is > > power > > and glory in creating and contributing and you stop maneuvering through > > life > > merely as a "consumer" looking for your next fix. > > You learn that principles such as honesty and integrity are not the > > outdated > > ideals of a by gone era, but the mortar that holds together the foundation > > upon which you must build a life. > > You learn that you don't know everything; it's not your job to save the > > world and that you can't teach a pig to sing. You learn to distinguish > > between guilt > > and responsibility and the importance of setting boundaries and learning > > to > > say NO. You learn that the only cross to bear is the one you choose to > > carry > > and that martyrs get burned at the stake. > > Then you learn about love. Romantic love and familial love. How to love, > > how > > much to give in love, when to stop giving and when to walk away. You learn > > not to project your needs or your feelings onto a relationship. You learn > > that you will not be more beautiful, more intelligent, more lovable or > > important > > because of the man on your arm or the child that bears your name. > > You learn to look at relationships as they really are and not as you would > > have them be. You stop trying to control people, situations and outcomes. > > You learn that just as people grow and change, so it is with love; and you > > learn that you don't have the right to demand love on your terms, just to > > make > > you happy. > > You learn that alone does not mean lonely. You look in the mirror and come > > to terms with the fact that you will never be a size 5 or a perfect 10 and > > you > > stop trying to compete with the image inside your head and agonizing over > > how you "stack up." > > You also stop working so hard at putting your feelings aside, smoothing > > things over and ignoring your needs. You learn that feelings of > > entitlement > > are > > perfectly OK and that it is your right, to want things and to ask for the > > things that you want and that sometimes it is necessary to make demands. > > You come to the realization that you deserve to be treated with love, > > kindness, sensitivity and respect and you won't settle for less. You allow > > only the > > hands of a lover who cherishes you, to glorify you with his touch and in > > the > > process, you internalize the meaning of self-respect. > > And you learn that your body really is your temple. And you begin to care > > for it and treat it with respect. You begin eating a balanced diet, > > drinking > > more > > water and taking more time to exercise. You learn that fatigue diminishes > > the spirit and can create doubt and fear. So you take more time to rest. > > Just > > as food fuels the body, laughter fuels our soul; so you take more time to > > laugh and to play. > > You learn that for the most part in life, you get what you believe you > > deserve and that much of life truly is a self-fulfilling prophecy. > > You learn that anything worth achieving is worth working for and that > > wishing for something to happen, is different from working toward making > > it > > happen. > > More importantly, you learn that in order to achieve success you need > > direction, discipline and perseverance. You also learn that no one can do > > it > > all alone > > and that it's OK to risk asking for help. > > You learn that the only thing you must truly fear is the great robber > > baron > > of all time; FEAR itself. You learn to step right into and through your > > fears, > > because you know that whatever happens you can handle it and to give in to > > fear, is to give away the right to live life on your terms. > > You learn to fight for your life and not to squander it living under a > > cloud > > of impending doom. You learn that life isn't always fair, you don't always > > get what you think you deserve and that sometimes bad things happen to > > unsuspecting, good people. On these occasions, you learn not to > > personalize > > things. > > You learn that God isn't punishing you or failing to answer your prayers; > > it's just life happening. > > You learn to deal with evil in its most primal state; the ego. You learn > > that negative feelings such as anger, envy and resentment must be > > understood > > and > > redirected or they will suffocate the life out of you and poison the > > universe that surrounds you. You learn to admit when you are wrong and to > > build bridges > > instead of walls. > > You learn to be thankful and to take comfort in many of the simple things > > we > > take for granted; things that millions of people upon the earth can only > > dream > > about; a full refrigerator, clean running water, a soft warm bed, a long > > hot > > shower. Slowly, you begin to take responsibility for yourself, by yourself > > and you make yourself a promise to never betray yourself and to never ever > > settle for less than your heart's desire. You hang a wind chime outside > > your > > window so you can listen to the wind, and you make it a point to keep > > smiling, to keep trusting and to stay open to every wonderful possibility. > > Finally, with courage in your heart and with God by your side you take a > > stand, you take a deep breath and you begin to design the life you want to > > live > > as best as you can. > > > > Delma > > > > > > > > > > > --~--~---------~--~----~------------~-------~--~----~ Access the Recipes And More list archives at: http://www.mail-archive.com/recipesandmore%40googlegroups.com/ Visit the group home page at: http://groups.google.com/group/RecipesAndMore -~----------~----~----~----~------~----~------~--~---
