Which one is more painfull? Gain or loss ???
Regards,
Tao Living - The Antique Vase
There was a general in ancient China who retired after many years of
military service. Not wishing to sit around doing nothing, he took up the
hobby of collecting antiques.
One day, he sat in his study to admire his latest acquisition – a small
antique vase. It was expensive but worth it. He turned it this way and
that, examining the exquisite patterns that ancient craftsmen had worked
into it. Suddenly, a careless movement of his fingers caused the vase to
slip from his hands. The general tried to catch it, but its slick surface
was difficult to grasp. He dove forward to try again. It was a close call,
but he finally managed to hold on to it, mere inches from the floor.
The general's heart was pounding rapidly. His breathing was frantic. He
gripped the vase tightly and stood up slowly. After a while, he was able to
regain some composure. He was relieved to have avoided damage, but
something was not right. Instead of elation, he felt only puzzlement. "In
all my campaigns," he thought to himself, "charging against the enemy,
leading men into battle, even facing much bigger armies than mine… I never
felt as much fear as I did just now. Why?"
Throughout his military career, the general always recognized the
possibility of losing his life, but it didn't frighten him at all. Somehow,
on this particular day, the possibility of losing the vase frightened him a
lot. In an instant of clarity, he saw the problem. He had become too
attached to the vase. That attachment was the cause of emotional turmoil.
He looked at the vase again, seeing it in a completely different light.
Then, with his mind perfectly at ease, he relaxed his hands. The vase
dropped and shattered into pieces.
In Chapter 44 of the Tao Te Ching, we read the following two lines:
The self or wealth, which is greater?
Gain or loss, which is more painful?
These are point-blank questions that go right to the heart of the issue.
Somehow, the vase became greater, or more important, to the general than
his life – at least for a while. What made it that way? We know the vase
didn't make it that way, because it was merely an object with no
supernatural powers to affect the mind. The problem had to originate from
the general himself. He was the one who assigned a high level of importance
to the vase. It was as if the vase owned him instead of the other way
around.
Countless people have died in pursuit of wealth throughout history, and we
have all seen those who endanger themselves because of greed. These are the
individuals who assign a high level of importance to material things. They
may think they are acquiring money, but it is as if they have been acquired
by money.
Just as the vase was not the real source of the general's problem, money
itself isn't to blame. Money can't really make us do anything, so the
question isn't so much why inanimate objects should have so much power over
us, but why we should willingly grant them that power. We often think of
gain as good and loss as bad, so it seems only natural to conclude that
loss is more painful. But when we consider the vase from the Tao
perspective, we can glimpse a different truth. The assignment of more
importance to wealth can actually lead to gain being more painful. This may
seem totally contrary to our expectations.
The vase can be generalized to represent anything we are attached to. The
more attached we are to it, the more we fear losing it. Nor is this fear
something that only starts when the loss occurs. Even before anything
happens to the object of attachment, we are already afraid. For instance, I
have a friend who recently purchased a laptop. It was very expensive
because it was as small and light as a laptop could be.
"Why do you need something so tiny?" I asked him.
"Because I can take it with me anywhere," he said, beaming with pride.
Several months later, I ran into him at a conference. I noticed he was
using a rather large and heavy laptop. "Hey, what happened to your new
toy?" I asked.
"Oh, I left it at home," he said. "I couldn't take the chance of having it
damaged or stolen or misplaced, so I brought this older laptop instead."
As I reflected on his words, I wondered if he realized the irony. We human
beings have this knack for taking actions that seem perfectly logical at
the time, only to have them lead us down the path to strange conclusions.
The fear my friend felt was fundamentally no different from the general's
fear. The magnitude of this fear corresponds in direct proportion to the
degree of attachment, and we are the sole cause of it. Most of us don't
think about this much. We accept it as part of life... but why should we?
Why should we live with fear that we have created for ourselves?
The general's decision to let go of the vase represents the way Tao
cultivators transcend this problem. It doesn't mean we should also drop our
material belongings and shatter them into pieces. What it really means is
that we need to relax and relinquish our grasping tendencies. One sage has
compared this to a thirsty man trying to get a drink of water from a
mountain stream. The man dips his hands into the stream in order to bring
water to his lips. If he does so with clenched fists, then he will remain
thirsty; if he does so with open hands cupped together, then he will enjoy
the cool and refreshing water, as much as he wants.
It is the same with life. If we live life full of attachments, we would be
like the general grasping the vase tightly, or the man thrusting fists into
water. We experience the fear of loss, end up with nothing worthwhile, and
have no one to blame but ourselves. By being able to let go, we release the
artificial fear that we have created. Like the general, we can rediscover
our peace of mind by loosening the death grip. Like the thirsty man, we can
dip our open hands into the stream of life and scoop up the clear and
sparkling essence of the Tao.
When we look at this essence, we see in it the exquisite patterns of
existence. They are not the static patterns of human creations, but the
dynamic, ever changing forces of nature, crafted by the divine. It is more
ancient than any antique, for it is eternal; it is more valuable than any
treasure, for it is priceless.
To drink this essence is to infuse life with the Tao. To bring it to our
lips, we must first open clenched fists. We drink with the mind perfectly
at ease and free from fear. Then, we relax, grasping nothing, so we can
scoop up more water... and bring even more Tao into our lives.
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