Understanding The Difference Between Control And Influence
The moment we become upset with someone in our family or at work it means we are trying to control them. And the moment others sense we are trying to control them, they distance themselves from us, and that reduces our ability to influence them in that situation. This in turn kills our effectiveness at getting things done through others, and leaves us frustrated and stressed, wondering why the world does not behave the way we want it to. This finally turns into the a very important realization - the more we try to control, the less influence we will have, whereas the less we attempt to control others, the more influence we will have. Question: Who are the two people in your life with whom you become frustrated or upset very often? Why are you trying to control them? Reflection: What can you see yourself doing differently (or behaving differently) in order to change your attempt from control into positive influence? Action: Where, and with whom, could you please experiment this? The result will definitely be positive and in favour of you !!! -- To unsubscribe, reply using "remove me" as the subject.
